relationship help

[SHELLP]

I am having trouble getting my ex patrner out of my head one minute i hate him the next I still have some sort of feelings for him. He is in a new relationship less than 5 weeks after we broke up it was a very messy end and he is due in crown court for assulting me which could result in a custodial sentence. He seems to be getting on with his life whilst mine is in tatters, I am on antideppresants and sleeping tablets.I am going out with my friends but just putting a face on things every minute is spent thinking of him, I dont even think I want him back I am just so confused and if Cant get him out of my head soon will end up contacting him against advice of police. He cannot contact me because of bail. My doctor says I am suffering post traumatic stress cos of the attack and is arranging counselling but there is a waiting list and I need help now. He is badmouthing me to everyone and telling them the assult was all my fault trying to cover up for himself but I still feel guilt.

[~max~]

It's perfectly normal that you still think about him. One, he was your bf. Two, he assaulted you.
The trauma from the assault is still there, and of course since it was him, you will be thinking about him. But, since you just broke up, you're most likely very sensitive right now, so whilst most people are able to have a "clean" break, you can't.
I guess you just have to try and bear it until some kind of judgment is reached, then you will finally be able to get on with your life. Do not kid yourself that anything you are feeling for him right now is love, you are very confused, and of course you should be. Try to spend as mcuh time as possible with your good friends and your family, and do NOt under any circumstances make contact with that person.
I wish you all the best hun. x

[SpamBammer]

get yourself the biggest, meanest, fastest, fattest most high powered vibrator and stick it up your buttt, you will soon forget about him

[sir.prize]

SlumBummer - - - - - did your midwife throw the wrong part away?

[SpamBammer]

sir.prick

is all you do, is change people user names about, do you have a problem with masturbation, which makes your eye sight a bit dodgy?

[SpamBammer]

coz you sound like a right ******

[SpamBammer]

t022er

[sir.prize]

not exactly bummer . . . . .you are on the right lines though. Theproblem comes from w@nkers like you.

Could you possibly give a constructive answer to the original post or do you get your kicks by being abusive with every comment? Try keeping your bowel mouth shut.

[SpamBammer]

yep i do infact get my kicks by being abusive with every comment?

do you get your kick by being such a dick head?

[SpamBammer]

tell you what prize.prick,

come back when you have less time

[SpamBammer]

what did that get you ,was that one of your ***** comments that you normally like to use?

[sir.prize]

I can guarantee I will be back more often than you . . . . . tick tock tick tock

[SpamBammer]

you sound like a right gormless sack of pig jizz, you really do.

[SpamBammer]

i bet you where a milk monitor at school and still write that down on you CV.

[sir.prize]

spammy . . . . Amazing isn't it?

[sir.prize]

SpamBam . . .come on then! There's a post awaiting your contribution. Titled: Amazing isn't it?

[unhappychick]

SpamBammer, why dont you get your 11 inch todger and choke yourself with it.....****!

[obNOXious]

I don't think it's unusual at all to have some thoughts about your ex, however badly things ended. It's early days yet at five weeks and you have every right to be contemplating things, anger over the bad times with him and mourning the loss of the good times. It's all perfectly normal and I have to say will probably go on for some time. I split from my wife early last year and I still think about things even now, but as time passes it becomes easier to deal with and to adjust to the possibilities of a new life so I'd be very careful about actually contacting him as you might end up right back at square one again. just give yourself a break and the time you need to heal and don't do anything rash that might cause you further problems in the future.

[legend758]

Feel no guilt , take yor time , get over him , and dont make the mistake of going back with him , in a years time this will be a very distant memory and you will be a lot happier im sure .




H 2 H : 0)

[Drisgirl]

I can only echo the constructive advice you have been given.

You are mourning and grieving for the death of a relationship.With that comes -unfortunately -the thoughts of the good times outweighing the bad times- which ultimately has led you to this situation.
Its really tough -I dont think there is anyone out there who doesnt feel for you.

Please dont contact him -it will only slow up what you are going through at the moment.

I do hope you get those messages of support before your thread is pulled.

Take care -in the words of the great Hothouse Flowers- 'It'll be easier in the morning' -check it out -its my 'mantra' song x

[SHELLP]

Im sat here crying I cant help it dont know whats wrong with me I know I cant go back dont even want to the reason he asulted me was because I told him it was over and he held me at knife point he is telling everyone that his defense in court is going to be that he hit me because I pulled a knife on him but this is a totally different story to what he told the police when he was arrested he told them there was no knife. He is making me go to court by pleading not guilty and is badmouthing me to everyone, I cant believe he has moved on so quick but if he is with someone new why cant he stop badmouthing me and telling lies about me he should be happy with her. He has destroyed me and is still doing so even now.