I have officially dumped him

[angel21]

I feel painfully sad :(

[ummmm]

I'm sorry but you sound slightly nuts.

[Naomicorlett]

But you are not hurting him by texting him ..you are making him the stronger one.

Yes Ummm breaking up can have that effect!!

[angel21]

I don't think I am though, it will hurt him cus I know he misses me.

I will do stuff for myself don't worry - I will find something to do. A hobbie is what I need and I need to get some friends somehow.

Yes I realise I probably do sound nutty and am probably going a bit nutty.

Normality will return one day til then ........

[CAJ1]

Hi angel,

I'm glad you managed to reply back on here. I think everything is worth a try and I'm looking into a career change and becoming a reflexologist and I wouldn't suggest it if I didn't think it would help! You are doing very well at not going back so well done! When I left my ex I had a lot of anger in me, I had so much I wanted to say to him and ask him (like why was he such a barsteward!). I read a book called Its My Life Now and it advised that you write a letter to your ex. You will never give it to them so write whatever you want. Tell him in your letter all the things you want to say, how he made you feel, ask all the questions you want to ask and when you can think of nothing else to write put it away somewhere out of sight. Everytime you want to say something to him, write it on your letter. Eventally you will be able to go a week without writing something down. When you are ready take your letter and destroy it in whatever way you want. Burn it, shred it and along with it discard of that part of your life and move on to your future. I hope you keep up the good work. Always here if you need someone xxx

[zzxxee]

stay strong stick by your guns it will all get better in time xxx

[angel21]

Can't thank you lot enough xxx

It's people like you that I need to find to be real friends not just virtual xxx

[CAJ1]

Happy to help. I'm in the same boat and know what you mean angel. I have no family and spent 5 years with my ex not being allowed to go out except to work. I left my ex over 2 and a half years ago. I met my boyfriend, made friends with his friends and their girlfriends, went out and met new people. I don't have a bunch of friends (but the ones I do have are fab and are there for me). I'm hoping if I succeed at reflexology I'll meet more new people through the job. I'm living proof you can come from nothing to something and prove everyone wrong (even if I do say so myself lol), just takes time chick xx

[zzxxee]

try and take up a hobby or a club where you can meet people with the same interests as you and then frienships will flourish

[yogi.bear]

I'll always be there to play tiddly winks with you, angel!

( so you wish, of course )

love the bear xx

:0)

[angel21]

tiddly winks - cor I haven't played that for ages. Can't even remember how you play it - something to do with flicking little round coin things ?

[CAJ1]

I know how to play, please can I play?! jumps up and down waving hand in air

[yogi.bear]

I'll take you both on........you two against............the bear xx


Winner supplys the picnic........yum yum!!

:0)

[angel21]

ok but can we start a new thread somewhere else please and can someone remind me how to play it and are you sure you can play it online without the tiddlywinks?

[CAJ1]

Hi Angel,

You've made it a week without him! How are you feeling? xx

[angel21]

Hi CAJ,

I'm feeling upset, angry, sad, lonely, bored, let down, deflated, weak, achy, unhappy

bet you wish you never asked - thanks though for asking x

[Naomicorlett]

Hang on on there Honey. There will be light at the end of the tunnel. It might be the train coming towards you tho' !!

[rinkins]

Hi angel sweetie xx Are you keeping yourself busy?

[CAJ1]

It will get better I promise, it just takes time. Do you not feel proud of yourself though for being strong?

You should try out my letter writing technique and get it out your system xx

[angel21]

Hey hunnies

Rinkins - no I need something to keep me busy and something and somewhere I can meet new people an make new friends as I am really lonely and bored. I put all my eggs in one basket which is never a good idea.

If anyone has any suggestions of clubs, activities, courses, volunteering activities, or any other ways of making friends please let me know but be prepared for me to say no a lot to the suggestions as I have thought of a lot but there is always a reason I can't do it.

CAJ1 - yes I am proud of myself even though its tough. I am proud because with my life so empty it would have been so much easier to have stayed with him but I made the break and somehow I am going to get myself a better life!! if it doesn't kill me before I have got it!!!

I have kind of tried you're letter writing only it was in the form of about 10 texts which have been sent to the ex. And more will be on the way when it takes the fancy. Good idea bad idea never mind I don't care if he thinks I'm sad, crazy, stupid cus it won't be forever and one day I will be in a better place!!

Naomi - can't wait for the light at the end of the tunnel, and yes I do hope it won't be the train coming to knock me down lol