how can i got my boyfriend to be more phyical

[5924]

by physical i mean like kissing and cuddling not like sexuall thigns

we are both too nervous to mqke a move and i dont wantto scare him off

[stonekicker]

doc - yes i do let them. i would rather they were open, honest and safe about their sex life with some sensible adult input to avoid some of the mistakes i made. i.e. safe sex, good information, honest discussion and a comfortable environment in my home when she 'visits'. i don't encourage it, but i pick up condoms for my son when i get my contraceptive depot every 12 weeks and am closer to both of them as a result. rather that than sneaky shags lords knows where with no protection and adult advice/availability/approachability to talk. i thought i would hate her as she was taking up a lot of my 'baby's' time - but she now visits regularly, stays for meals and sometimes overnight. they aren't doing anything i wasn't at that age (see my posts and do th math), but they are a helluva lot more sensible, open and honest about it...x

[5924]

but how do i know if he wants the same thing i do, the first tme he really hugged me well not really hugged me was on the last day of school when people were taking photo's of us but that was the only time he would do anything then a few days later i properly hugged him and it was great but liike i dont know if he wants the same thing as me

[AlBags]

yep ... Bob .. your memory ain't good mate : )

[AlBags]

5924 ..

Go out for romantic walks 'n stuff.
Saves that awkward sitting about bit .. away from friends n family : )

[stonekicker]

you will only know if he wants the same thing if you take the leap of faith and cuddle....hold his hand...give him a kiss. is never easy being the first one to do so, but you may be pleasantly suprised and find he wants that too. young love is great - but also comes with worry and far too much thinking! jusy go with the flow (slowly) and build things gently. if its right, it will work. don't be so hard on yourself and have a good time - that's what lurve and stuff is for. but i repeat - stay safe and you should find an adult you trust to talk to about these issues if you can. they can advise, help and guide and not just turn out twitter on here like i do...x

[5924]

im going out tomorrow, what can i do to give him any hints that i want to be closer

[Roughquest]

Just look him in the eye and snog his face off....spontaneity is a wonderful thing....ENJOY !

[Prudie]

All boys develop at different ages, Yours (if you are his first proper g/friend) could be really nervous about getting it right first time so to speak. Kissing i mean. I was terrified of getting my first proper kiss when i was young in case i did it wrong. Most people would admit to the same.

[stonekicker]

give him a kiss hello - even if its a peck on the cheek. hold hands or put your arm around his waist as you walk. the emotions a feelings should be good - butterflies in the stomach etc and a nice warm glow. at your age, it is cool to be seen draping yourselves all over each other! (although it may take a while if you are both nervous!). don't put pressure on yourself and don't think too much. just increase body contact and you can take it from there. awww....young love! x

[5924]

lol hahaha so many people have said young love lol though seiously i am hoping something good will come of tomorrow

[5924]

im also making his lunch tomorrow too hehe his own made lunch box by meee *looks dazed* huh what oh lols yeahy

[stonekicker]

i hope it does too - you seem really keen on him. you will have to take a leap of faith and let him know you are there for him, but if you are 'going out' or have meetings for the two of you it does sound like you are beginning to be a couple. just let it come naturally and you are always welcome here for chat and advice. you'll figure it out and it would be great to hear back from you if you have a lovely date! x

[bobjugs12]

Go for it 5924, eat his face like it's going out of fashion. You control your own destiny sweetheart

[5924]

lol yeah i shall be back tomorrow on this thread telling how it went lol

[Prudie]

Nicely pitched bobjugs

[bobjugs12]

Most importantly don't worry about things if they go a bit tits-up.
Headbuts, banging teeth, giggling fits; it's all part of the fun

[AlBags]

I'll have the same as what you're on Bobs

[4getmenot]

I remember my first proper kiss when I was about 15. I wasnt going out with this guy but we used to hang out in summer, I was getting at that age wondering what my first kiss would be like, practising on my hand etc. well it turned out so different to how I imagined. We were running across the top of a stack of hay bales, and I fell down one of the gaps, couldnt move and he basically rammed his tongue down my throat. So at least got it over and done with and no awkward moments. I am still in touch with him....and get on well with his boyfriend too.

[bobjugs12]

My god 4get. You were that bad at kissing that you turned him gay!!

[5924]

@4getmenot
lols hhehe if i fell it would be so romantic if he grabbed me before i fell. lols i really have been watching too much anime lol. (japanese cartoon shows aimed at teens)