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[Zammo]

I was seeing this guy for 8 months and we had a great relationship. He did all the running and even asked me to be his girlfriend 3 weeks before he finished with me. He dumped me by an email - it was so unexpected. His reasons were that he doesn't feel the way he should at this stage of the relationship and said he would never feel "that" way about me. Everything was going fine even saying things like "he fancied me more than he's ever fancied anyone....". I've since found out he got back with an ex pretty much straight after he finished things with me...coincedence? Hmmmm. Even his best friend thinks he's nuts for finishing with me because he thinks he's lost something special. Gutted but VERY confused. Love to hear your thoughts...

[Zammo]

I'm not as young as you think - I'm in my thirties - doesn't make it any easier. :-( I actually thought i'd met a guy who truly honestly liked me.

[KikiTiger]

You sound young, however thats what men do sometimes, he obviously wanted his ex back so made some silly lies up to you and why he finished with you.He sounds incredibly immature.

[ummmm]

She's obviously bought back feeling he'd forgotten he had. Did he mention her in the email?

[Sqad]

I love the use of the word "immature" in this section of Relationship and Dating.

The definition seems to be that if a poster, male or female objects to a line of action, it is automatically....."immature"

In my opinion.

[Zammo]

Nope he didn't mention her at all. I found out about it because we move in similar circles. I emailed him about it and he says him going out with her didn't overlap and he still stands by the reasons he gave me but it was too quick in my opinion.

[joko]

quite right sqad...it seems you are not allowed to be upset or confused by being poorly treated in a relationship because it means you are immature and 'very young'...because as we all know mature people dont get upset about a lost love...mature people just take a deep breath and get over it instantly...dont they...?

[ummmm]

They might not have overlapped. Seeing her again probably brought back feelings. It might have made him realise that he didn't feel as strongly about you as he thought...

[Nay35]

Bloody men!!!!