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[Zammo]

I was seeing this guy for 8 months and we had a great relationship. He did all the running and even asked me to be his girlfriend 3 weeks before he finished with me. He dumped me by an email - it was so unexpected. His reasons were that he doesn't feel the way he should at this stage of the relationship and said he would never feel "that" way about me. Everything was going fine even saying things like "he fancied me more than he's ever fancied anyone....". I've since found out he got back with an ex pretty much straight after he finished things with me...coincedence? Hmmmm. Even his best friend thinks he's nuts for finishing with me because he thinks he's lost something special. Gutted but VERY confused. Love to hear your thoughts...

[sara3]

you saw each other for 8 months, and he only asked you to be his girlfriend 3 weeks before it finished?

what were you for the other 6.5 months?

[ummmm]

He probably new he was going to get back with his before he dumped you.

[ummmm]

*knew

[RATTER15]

You sound very young, I think you will find this one is best put down to experience.

The road to true love....................................

[China Doll]

If he could only finish with you via email then it's probably no big loss.

[Sqad]

That seems to me not to be an unreasonable situation.

[RATTER15]

Sara, they were "seeing each other" come on keep up with the times!!

[NoMercy]

The Ex factor, I'm afraid. He was and always would be hung up on his ex. You were there to occupy his thoughts and tend to his needs until he patched things up with her.

Oh, and only a true coward would dump you without telling you to your face. I know you are hurting, but try to remember that he's not worth your concern and you can do so much better. x

[Sqad]

NoM

<<<Oh, and only a true coward would dump you without telling you to your face.<<<

Tell me you are joking...........there must be millions of "cowards" about.

[cazzz1975]

you may have been a rebound? 8 months of seeing each other before asking you to become a girlfriend is quite a sizeable amount of time, maybe him making you officially his girlfriend was enough of an impetus to encourage his ex make her move..?

[NoMercy]

Sqad... yes, I've encountered one or two.

If you are going to confer such pain/suffering/confusion upon a person with your actions, surely it would be more chivalrous to do it face to face?

[ummmm]

I think I'd prefer to be dumped that way.

[Sqad]

NoM....more chivalrous.........YES.

More sensible ( in my opinion).........NO

Crying, blubbing, pleading, begging..........uh! forget the chivalry.

You see, face to face, the woman plays the "emotional card" and that often trumps the "kiss off"...........so dont get yourself in a position where emotional factors may sway your decision. Nothing to do with chivalry, but everything to do with common sense, as changing your mind, or giving in to her, may be a big mistake.

[NoMercy]

Sqad... one doesn't know what kind of a reaction they'll get when they choose to end a relationship, but if they had any respect for their ex-to-be, they'd have the decency to tell them to their face and not sent electronic notification of the demise of their relationship. It's about doing the right thing.

[Sqad]

NoM...my darling....you are quite correct.

[Zammo]

His ex had just moved back into the street he lives and they'd not really spoken for 8 years.

[ummmm]

How old are you?

Looks like he forgot how he felt about her...

[cazzz1975]

I would imagine they have "caught up" maybe unbeknowingly to you, sounds to me like he is very much hung up on her still.

[BertiWooster]

// ..He dumped me by an email - ..//

Sacked by email

This trend is so quick, easy and convenient nowadays isn't it