Suspected cheating

[efences]

Hi Guys,

I have a feeling my wife may be having an affair. Shes secretive with Facebook and her phone. I found a mobile phone number written down which I know i wasnt meant to see.

Is there anyway of checking if that number has been used? Either as a call or text?

Im so gutted but dont want to confront her til i have solid evidence.

I dont know her online account password or username for her phone bill. And i doubt T Mobile will disclose that info

Please help.

Thank you in advance.

Desperate times call for desperate measures.

[4getmenot]

my ex cheated on me alot. I dont have to check anything my bloke does now as I got with a bloke I fully trust and believe would never do that to me.

[daffy654]

If you can get hold of her mobile phone try checking the call log, it should be in the settings section, you will then know if she has phoned the number... not that it would really do you any good because you have no idea who the number belongs to.

[ummmm]

I agree with Pink...my ex cheated on me. I knew deep he was cheating but didn't do anything about it because 1) we had a business together. and 2) he worked away and only came back once or twice a month.

It all came to light when he started accusing me of cheating. As we had a business, and I did the accounts, I just went through his phone bills (we had 10 contract mobiles) I just highlighted every call made after 8pm and looked for a recurring number...job done in less than 10 minutes.....My opinion was 'if you think I'm doing it the chances are you are'

[ummmm]

And like 4get....I would never doubt my partner. Cheating just isn't his style..

[thedaveformula]

Just say to her 'I want to see the text messages you are getting', if it's a joint bank account and a joint household, it's a joint text message system. If she refuses, then she is up to something and don't ever take her back. If she's cheating on you get her out of your house.

[arwyn]

I soooo trusted hubby no' 1, the only change in him was the last 6 month (while trying for baby no'2) he started making my life hell, arguements etc so I though he wanted us to split SO I LEFT..
Then I saw the bigger picture.
He had been seeing her at work "he was a taxi driver" also on his on night out a week WITH THE LADS which I fell for.

[arwyn]

TO RIGHT PINKIlady... wish i'd been on the ball like you ummmm

[soaps]

Most men are not mentally monogamous. They just seem to have the urge to spread their seed,Let's not gender this - women cheat also.

[arwyn]

I know pinkilady, when I was intetween hubbies i was offten chatted up by them, one was in his 60s i was early 30s ha ha so it soooo goes on

[arwyn]

i know soaps but every now and then i have a rant ha ha.... I deserve it because the splitting up part was really only the start of it...... rant over with for now ha ha i say no more on the subject

[ummmm]

Arwyn....it's easy to be 'on the ball' when you don't care. It was just an inconvenience having to chuck him out. The kids didn't even notice that I had.

I learnt by mistakes....and hopefully you have Arwyn. Trust your instincts...if you don't think your man is cheating...sit back and relax and enjoy the relationship and let the past stay in the past :-)

[arwyn]

ummmmm thats made me laugh, the kids never noticed.. I really dont worry with no'2, i just check now and then to be sure, he never minds,, anyway he knows i look so he'd be daft to leave anything..

[ummmm]

Seriously....the kids didn't know for months that I'd chucked him out. Doesn't say much for him does it??

As long as it's not something constantly nagging at the back of your mind....all's good :-)

[arwyn]

how old were the kids? i keep laughing at that bit.
my son was 4 and at that age he blamed me,, till he understood.

[pastafreak]

I found out by accident that my ex was cheating,as he was definitely one of those guys whom NO-ONE would see as a cheater.....never looked at other women...not very passionate....always worked hard.

At the time-we both had the same mobile....one night I had texted our daughter-she was going through a very difficult and wayward phase...and I made sure I knew where she was every night-just to touch base. I was in bed reading,when my husbands mobile text alert went off. My immediate -almost instinctive -reaction was that it was Cassie responding on his phone because mine was off or something. I just went-and looked at the text.
It was something along the lines of "oh I guess we are through now,as you've not called...blah,blah"....I thought it was a 'wrong number'....and ignored.....until another,very similar text came through 10 minutes later. I just took the mobile downstairs to my husband-and handed it to him-saying "your mobile has rung..."
I NEVER said a thing to him about it......and I left him almost a year later......but before I left him,I DID have a look in his phone to see if he was still 'involved'......yep he was. This was almost 6 years ago-he lives with her now.

[ummmm]

5 and 3.....I don't think they liked him much either :-)