Confused about her

[searchlight]

I'm married and a woman I've known for almost year is also married. We regularly chat online video and by phone. We have never met but have very strong feelings for each other. Both our other halves know of our friendship but not how close we are. We regularly tell each we love them and text at least once a day most days. I asked her recently does she love me or is she in love with me. She answered that's a secret. Later I wondered if loving someone is the same as being in love with them in the context of a relationship

Do you think her answer of "it's a secret" means she loves me, or she is in love with me or are they both the same

I'd like to hear any opinions, thanks

[Invictas]

Do you still love your wife?
If you do then there is something wrong with you,or your marriage, that you have to indulge in such a "relationship"!

[welshlibranr]

You have never met each other!.......how can you know whether or not you love each other!.........you need to have a relationship to determine this surely!...........

[boxtops]

Searchlight - secrets will out, and then you will have lots of questions to answer about the titillating aspects of this "relationship". How can you love someone you've never met? It's like being on here - she could be not what she's telling you who she really is.
How would you feel if your wife told you that she was having a cyber-relationship with another bloke? Keep this up, and you might find out, then you will end up with nobody. It's the thrill of the chase which is keeping this non-relationship alive, IMO.

End it now, before you get hurt. You will feel at a terrible loose end, so pay attention to your patient wife instead.

[maggie21]

omg pages and pages of advice, if she says its a secret, she just not into you and stringing you along, concentrate on your wife instead of chatting with woman on-line.

and from a young biddy jeez i feel sorry for you andy hughes.
if you believe most woman
fantasise about sex with a stranger where he firmly controls their token resistance.this is one woman that doesnt....