Confused about her

[searchlight]

I'm married and a woman I've known for almost year is also married. We regularly chat online video and by phone. We have never met but have very strong feelings for each other. Both our other halves know of our friendship but not how close we are. We regularly tell each we love them and text at least once a day most days. I asked her recently does she love me or is she in love with me. She answered that's a secret. Later I wondered if loving someone is the same as being in love with them in the context of a relationship

Do you think her answer of "it's a secret" means she loves me, or she is in love with me or are they both the same

I'd like to hear any opinions, thanks

[Sqad]

Well girls....my experience of what men are excited by is different from your female comments suggests.

Slime Ball...........LOL

[Bbbananas]

I don't really want to get into a discussion about rape fantasies either - back to searchlight's original question.

concentrate on your relationship with your wife search - if no go, no success - then perhaps you could think about taking it further with this other woman, though I doubt that will happen somehow.

[Sqad]

pixi

..<<<<< basically hes lying through his teeth to his wife<<<<

NEVER............husbands lying?................how dare you.

[jackthehat]

^ Probably a inappropriate example to question, pixi.......

[pastafreak]

yes pixi....but we really don't know if it's being reciprocated. I still think this is all a fantasy to him.

[Sqad]

.pixi "if I found out, not very happy, but that doesn´t mean it is not going on. The trick is.....don´t get found out.

<<<<how would you feel if you found out your other half was having chats like this with someone you thought she was just friends with?<<<<

[pa___ul3]

pau_la agrees with you pixi! I really think this online thing is no more than an enfatuation brought about from a little boredom. Best way to fix, searchlight, it is to tackle the problem at it's source, your wife is someone who does love you back, even if you are a d1ck, she's showing her faith in you by allowing your online friendship with another woman and you're taking advantage of that. Be a man about this and look after the woman you married.

[Bbbananas]

You're very astute and reasonable pau_l. For a man........ ;-)

[jackthehat]

pixi - Only that sqad doesn't provide the answers one could usually expect when asked questions like that............:o)

[Sqad]

JTH

<<<<<force-fantasies' and rape.<<<

You still haven´t explained the difference...............simple terms please.

[jackthehat]

I would sqad.............but I can't be bothered.

Simple enough ?

(Perhaps one of the others who agreed with me would care to oblige.........?)

[Bbbananas]

If you were a woman sqad, you would know the difference. I don't really want to get into a debate about that though.

[Sqad]

JTH....ah! you have changed you negative and ultimate post to a thread.....usually is " and your point IS?

I gather that you cannot explain the difference.

[Mick-Talbot]

Questions: 92
Answers: 63


Searchlight is treating this question, like most of his others.

[Ankou]

wolf63 provided the best answer on page 1. quite what this other drivel has to do with anything is beyond me.

you could have taken your weird/impotent fantasies elsewhere sqad rather than degrade this thread. honestly.

[Sqad]

ankou....you call it "degrade" and i call it "enlighten"

You are entitled to your opinion.

[daffy654]

Sqad, rape has little to nothing to do with actual sex, it is more about the power the rapist has over his victim... and degrading them as much as possible.