Confused about her

[searchlight]

I'm married and a woman I've known for almost year is also married. We regularly chat online video and by phone. We have never met but have very strong feelings for each other. Both our other halves know of our friendship but not how close we are. We regularly tell each we love them and text at least once a day most days. I asked her recently does she love me or is she in love with me. She answered that's a secret. Later I wondered if loving someone is the same as being in love with them in the context of a relationship

Do you think her answer of "it's a secret" means she loves me, or she is in love with me or are they both the same

I'd like to hear any opinions, thanks

[LoftyLottie]

We think alike Pasta!

[Sqad]

pasts.....nothing wrong with fantasies.......women have them you know:

e.g being raped, having intercourse with a ............bl@ck man.

[pastafreak]

They even have cyber tiffs.......^^^^^^

[Sqad]

Lofty......rubbish.......in your opinion............!!!

[LoftyLottie]

Really. Do women fantasise about being raped!! Yes women do have fantasies, but being raped............................. ?

[LoftyLottie]

Yes Rubbish in my opinion and I am right!! ;o)

[pastafreak]

*raped?*

hell no!!!

[Sqad]

Lofty............of course they do...................do you speak to women?

A women would not let on to another women or her husband...but she would let on to her lover ;-)

[jackthehat]

Trust sqad not to know the difference between 'force-fantasies' and rape..............

D'you think Mrs sqad has a handsome Spanish stud-muffin on speed-dial for when her husband is off bothering some other unfortunate woman...........?

I like to think so.......

[pastafreak]

I don't think he's a slime ball pixi......but he IS very confused,as his infatuation with a pixel is getting in the way of real life...and that's what he needs to work on.

[Sqad]

JTH.....No.....explain the difference to me.

[Bbbananas]

Force-Fantasy - yes.
Rape - no. Hell no. No self-respecting woman anyway.

[LoftyLottie]

Do I speak to women - yes a great deal. We all have fantasies and we talk about them too. Not once have I ever heard that women fantasise about being raped. Perhaps some do? You have obviously spoken to them!!

[LoftyLottie]

Agree with your 10.40 posting Pasta.

[ummmm]

It was on Shameless the other night. A politicians wife paying for her kidnap and rape fantasy to be acted out...

Anyway...isn't this a bit too off topic?

[daffy654]

If you are in love with this other woman then why are you still with your wife? and why hasn't she left her husband to be with you?

Do your respective partners a favour and either stop the stupid online relationship or bring it out into the open so your spouses can kick you out of the home for being cheating, lying scumbags.

[pastafreak]

We must share a brain,Lofty...a very intelligent one.... ;-))

[jackthehat]

I would imagine a large number of women fantasise about having sex with "...........black men........." being black women themselves !!

You really ought to update your "Razzle" collection, sqad.

[LoftyLottie]

And who brought the subject of rape up, ummmm? ;o)

This has got distasteful. I am off.

Sqad, are you a man that thinks if a woman says 'no' she really means 'yes'?