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Will my married man ever leave?
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In a nutshell, I met him 2 years ago at a work conference. He told he was being kicked out of the house by his wife, but was desperate to stay because of their two children.
We started a relationship and he soon readily agreed to a divorce from his wife. However, wife then changed her mind and persuaded him to stay, but he still wanted to keep hold of me as their marriage was one purely of convenience for the kids.
He suggested buying me a ring to show his commitment, then got cold feet over that.
He then said he would stay at home for four more years until the younger boy starts secondary school.
He lives 200 miles away and at first we saw each often - but the last time was 7 months ago, though we text and phone all day every day.
I know the answer to my question really, but I need help in breaking free of this soul-destroying relationship. My self esteem is in tatters but that is what keeps me there, I suppose.
I suspect I am also addicted to the adrenalin and rollercoaster ride but it's all massively stressful and I want to have the self confidence to say, no - I deserve more.
We started a relationship and he soon readily agreed to a divorce from his wife. However, wife then changed her mind and persuaded him to stay, but he still wanted to keep hold of me as their marriage was one purely of convenience for the kids.
He suggested buying me a ring to show his commitment, then got cold feet over that.
He then said he would stay at home for four more years until the younger boy starts secondary school.
He lives 200 miles away and at first we saw each often - but the last time was 7 months ago, though we text and phone all day every day.
I know the answer to my question really, but I need help in breaking free of this soul-destroying relationship. My self esteem is in tatters but that is what keeps me there, I suppose.
I suspect I am also addicted to the adrenalin and rollercoaster ride but it's all massively stressful and I want to have the self confidence to say, no - I deserve more.
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Just to clarify, we haven't seen each other for 7 months as three meetings in between had to be cancelled by one or other of us. I think that because he has moved the goalposts SO much my heart isn't into meeting for sex anyway - it's not like he's suddenly turn round and say - actually, yes, I'm going to leave my wife IMMEDIATELY!
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