It's all kicking off. What would you do?

[Ratty2E]

MIL was in hospital earlier this year with pneumonia along another very resistant lung infection and was also diagnosed with COPD. She had been a smoker for 50 odd years and obviously quit. We have just found out that she has started smoking again, Hubby went ballistic and wants to have strong words with her. He confronted FIL about it, who by the way is buying them for her as she never walked to a shop even before all this, and it kicked off.
Hubby was told it's none of his business and he is not to say anything to her to upset her. It seems the fact that everyone else is upset and worried doesn't matter. Unfortunately of the 4 kids only my hubby has so far actually voiced his opinion despite the other feeling the same way. I'm keeping out of it at the moment but I'm not one for holding my tongue so it's difficult. Trouble is despite being practically 50 years old FIL talks to hubby like he's a kid and can be quite bullying. No one wants a rift but it got very heated this morning. Is it unreasonable to be hurt and upset by this?

[coccinelle]

What do you think triggered it off again? Maybe she felt as she had stopped she could just have one or she might have thought something was missing in her life. Anyway, I wish you all the patience in the world to help her through it it can't be easy especially for your husband.

[Ratty2E]

Well she had another unrelated health issue recently which is apparently what she says made her start again. TBH I think that's just an excuse I think she would have started again anyway. Hubby has calmed somewhat although as I said we've got a weeks holiday together to get through. Thanks again everyone for your input