how can I get rid of my mother in law???

[shabz]

I have an annoying interffering mother in law whos got me at the end of my tether, My hubby is not prepared to move out but she's making my life hell. What can I do???

[snagged]

Rat poison?

[shabz]

LOL I wish.....

[Velvetee]

Do you live in your mother in law's home Shabz?

Why doesn't your husband want to move out, would your mother in law be alone if you both moved?

[Myriad2112]

Chop her head off and put it in a bag on a beach

[snagged]

Don't forget the hands! :o))

[shabz]

No she has anouther son living with her, but she seems obsessed with the idea that I have him under my spell and planned to take him away from her..... Hubby knows if we move out she won't want anything to do with us

[shabz]

its her tongue which does the most damage....

[Myriad2112]

Good reason to move out then

[snagged]

Sounds like a mother who is having problems 'letting go'...

as above... chop her head off... problem solved ;o)

[dot.hawkes]

you need to be blunt here I think, tell her you love her son and are so in love with him, you are prepared to put up with her whatever happens.

[Velvetee]

Not wishing to be impertinent Shabz, but are you from the Asian community?

If you moved out, would your mother in law really not speak to you again, or do you think it's just a threat she makes to control the situation?

You probably do need to move out, but obviously your husband needs to be supportive. Family is important, but so is your marriage and happiness. It sounds like a very difficult situation.

[shabz]

I hardly speak to her and avoid her as much as I can, my hubby want us to "discuss" our problems but his mother doesn't know the meaning of the word. quite frankly I don't want to even look at her forget talking to her

[shabz]

yes I am from the asian community and although my mother in law makes out shes broadminded and not the typical stereotypical asian she is in polite terms a hypocrite and two-faced

[Myriad2112]

Plant some drugs on her and get her deported.

[gonzo00]

i can "take her out" for ya for about ten grand..it can be messy or very messy it's up to you..but don't tell anyone...know what i mean....wink wink:)

[Velvetee]

My friend was in a similar situation, her mother in law finally got her way and the marriage ended.

Maybe you can try the family discussion thing and see what happens. But it all comes back to your husband, he either takes his mother's side or yours.

[josie48]

Try another long talk with your hubby shabz. Ask him who do his prioritys lie with. Tell him you understand how much he honours his mum but you should take 1st place being his wife.

[shabz]

He understands where im comin from and I think deep down he wants to go aswell but he'd rather leave on friendly terms than to take the 1st step. He can never hear a word against me and always backs me up when i'm right which seems to ignite the fire.
Also its financially a big step its so hard gettin onto the property market these days which I think scares him the most

[Velvetee]

Well eventually you will need your own place for your own family, if you don't already have one. I would have said now was a good a time as any. It is a big financial committment, but you'll probably need to do it at some point.

If not, maybe you can start researching housing associations for rental or shared ownership. But I would say, from what you say, the only solution is to make a break from her.