hellllllllppppppppp

[spanner7853]

I have friends that are also my neighbours which are going through a marriage break up. Me and my husband are involuntary involved but as were friends with them it gets more difficult not to take sides.

Can anyone give me any advise on how to help them, I know they need to help themselves but they are 10 years younger than me and I'm starting to feel like there mother. Mentally drained myself let alone them. I have tried to just listen but when they ask what they should do I don't know what to say.

TIA

[Bbbananas]

It's a toughie - I've been there.
Pour them a glass of wine, tell them you don't want to take sides then give them the number for Relate. Or a solicitor.

[lil75]

I think its unfair to drag you into it and to a point where you are feeling drained, just selfish to me...yes they have there lives to sort out, but you have a life too, and when you keep hearing misery all the time it gets you down...concentrate on you and your husband and dont allow yourself to be dragged into it anymore, I would take the advice from above!

[theonlyone]

tell them to go to Relate ..or just do thier
own thing and not involve you ...

[spanner7853]

thank you for all there answers they have helped. I do know one thing though, it has put me off the thought of me ever getting rid of hubby haha. It has actually made us realise how lucky we are.