Reins For A 4 Year Old

[numnum]

Can anyone recommend a set of reins for a 4 year old escapee?

We've persevered for years with his escaping and tried them before but he just ended up in a tangle with his tantrums. Hoping now as he's older, even though still no change in behavior that the Reins will be something we can use on those days where we just know he's going to use every opportunity to run away

[pixie373]

It definitely isn't just about parental "control". I have one out of four with ADHD. I have tried everything and we needed extra help. I have the sane parenting skills (or lack of) with all of mine. She is just different. I know sqad agrees it is over-diagnosed. What i agree with is that it's wrong for parents to diagnose, or even a doctor. It can only be done by a psychiatrist.
sorry numnum, you do have my sympathy. My youngest has sensory processing disorder (very similar to autism, but physical signs too). Stick with the reins to keep him safe and good luck with the professional help- they should be able to tell you how to deal with him, in particular.

[numnum]

Thanks pixie. I just had a few questions for you. What age was your daughter diagnosed? I did google things in the past but I've been trying not to look up things as I'd probably be at the doctor every other day with a new diagnosis for him and also I don't want things I've read to make my thoughts change if thats make sense.

Whats is her general day to day behavior like? My son has his ups and downs. Its like having two different children in one. He goes through a week or so good spells where its a lot of work but basic 'hold my hand' or 'your toy is going away' works, then he flips and nothing works, everything is a fight from brushing teeth, toilet visits, sitting in his chair in the car. Every move had to be planned. We are obviously getting paranoid as we know what he is capable of but we try not to show him even if we are always hovering close by him at all times.

[sherrardk]

Not the same, but I had to have thing 2 assessed for his speech problems. Do all you can before he starts school and get things sorted. I managed to get thing 2 a TA before he started school and it has made a major difference. These people are really good - http://www.parentpartnership.org.uk/

[pixie373]

Sorry. Only just seen your post. She was only diagnosed in October last year, as she turned 16. I had put her behaviour from 13 down to teenage behaviour, but no amount of restrictions, grounding, taking things off her, made any difference whatsoever. She also isn't like two people in one- she's very softhearted and affectionate, but always outspoken. It's like there's no filter.
Your son actually sounds much more like mine, with sensory processing disorder. But you need to ask your GP for referral to a paediatrician (you might have to fight for it). They will diagnose and help you x

[dancecaller]

We had a lad at playgroup who had problems but the parents were told that he was sensitive to certain food additives. Which made a difference. So I hope they test for that (if he's worse sometimes than others might it point that way?).

Not everyone accepts the diagnosis - you hear things like 'she's an anxious parent'. Which she obviously would be when son 2 was so different from son 1 and she had to cope with the behaviour and the lack of sleep.

Hope you get the help you need. Use the reins meanwhile.

[mrsthomas151212]

Oh numnum I know exactly how you feel my little boy is 4 in 6 weeks and we are on the route to asd adhd diagnosis hopefully at paediatric appointment next month I actually cane across this post trying to find some reigns for my own little one it is very hard to just go to shop for milk let alone anything else with him and Ihave a 1 yr old aswel wich means while hubby is at work putting him in a stroller isn't an option but same as you need something to keep him safe as he walks out in roads into lampposts and falls over from running a lot tonight he has fallen and bumped his head and I have had enough 1 way or another I will get him some reigns even if I have to bloody make them lol I do so hope you get all the help you need for you and you little one