Daughter

[jana007]

Hiya i was wondering if you would be able to help me. I would like to know if father of my little girl could stop me from leaving UK. I'm from Slovakia and things just don't work between us. So i would like to go back to my country with our little girl. We are not married but his name is on her birth certificate.

[Bobbisox]

This is very sad, what do you think he would do jana?
he does have rights too but I feel for you being in a foreign country without family around you, and why does his family treat you both this way?

[bobjugs12]

Vibes mate, thats wrong to say.
What if the dad is nothing like what she says, what if she's ruffled around the boa because he's binned her and wants revenge. We don't know either paryt and we've only got one side of an argument.

[jana007]

do i need to get some forms for him to sign? his family are nice people just don't make the effort with their granchildren. my little girl was in the hospital with bad burns and she had 2 opps and i even didnt have a txt msg to ask how she was. i know if it would be my parents they would be there every day.

[Bobbisox]

you seem very well read jana in English, how long have you been here?

[jana007]

why would i lie. i've got no reason. if i would wanna make stuff up i wouldn't be asking for help on here would i. i love my little girl. i don't want revenge. i don't want fight either.

[bobjugs12]

I didn't say you were lying jana. All I said was that you could be.

[jana007]

I have been here for over 7 years and at the moment working for the police. so i've got a good job. i just want my little girl to be happy round people what can treat her and me well.

[redcrx]

then talk to him, he may be OK and allow you to go home with your child.

[Bobbisox]

surely the Police can offer support then jana, they have allsorts of family laison people, you would be better off asking them and you will be told then what doors are open to you

[jana007]

I know that he wont be ok. Coz if i would leave he would lose everything. He would have nowhere to live. So i am getting used in a way as well. It's so hard coz i do feel bad about taking our little girl away from him but i just feel like now is the time as i've been messed about way to many times and he is never gonna change.

[jana007]

i will have to find out tomorrow then. will have to speak to my boss. even that i don't like to bring my personal life to work. but i think that this time it's needed.

[Bobbisox]

yes I think you should jana, you will be given the right information then
Good Luck

[in a mo]

Possesion is 9/10ths so the saying goes ,well all you need to do is gradually close all your ties here, keep it to yourself ,try not to involve any body else and just go ,if you are so unhappy possesions mean nothing ,you and you daughters happiness are paramount ,now are you sure you really want to go. Good luck we all deserve happiness.

[Bobbisox]

I would say a child is a posession in a mo
you can't just advise her to do that it is against the law, I wish her well too but she needs to do this properly

[jana007]

I have never been more sure with anything in my life.

[Bobbisox]

<not say a child is a posession>