i got condoms for my 15 year old son and his girlfriend of the same age (they are 20 now and still together). they were upstairs in his bedroom up to lord knows what, so i made sure they were safe. as i got to know her, i also went with her to the gum clinic to get the pill prescribed (she asked me to go with her as she has not had contact with her parents for a good few years) so they could be doubly safe. i spoke to them both clearly when they were 15 about them being under the age of consent and i would prefer that they wait, but i would also rather have them under my roof instead of god knows where without condoms and somewhere safe to be sexual. because of that, i think, they have developed a normal, loving and safe relationship which is great (compared to how some kids screw things up).
i was raped at 13, which wasn't a great start for me (i told nobody about this until i was an adult), and then my first 'proper' time was at 14 (when i had a much older, unsavoury and predatory boyfriend) who basically forced me into having sex on the bathroom floor in my parents house as my brother held a party. no-one was there to look out for me again, and we didn't use any contraception either. i got pregnant and when i told my mother, she beat me black and blue and i lost the baby.
the art of being a parent is being open and honest about everything, including sex and relationships. i wasn't entirely happy they were having sex at 15, but at least i knew what they were up to and they both could talk to me about any issues they had (and would ask me to get them more condoms when i went to the gum clinic for my contraceptive jab!). we now have a peaceful, pleasant, loving, settled and relaxed relationship with both our son and his 'mrs' (as he calls her!) and our house is so lovely....very different to the one i grew up in and one i thought i would never have. we have always been 'liberal' parents, i suppose, but it means that communication, honesty, love and affection is the core of all our relationships; despite any other problems we have, as life is not perfect and has been hard for us (me and mr kicker especially). but that is another story x