Paedophile

[agardener]

This is a straightforward question, I simply want to know what as many people as possible think.
If you had a daughter, sister, grand-daughter who already had small children and then invited a paedophile into their home, what would you think? Would you approve or object? And if you objected, what would you do about it if anything?

[woofgang]

what jth said. Stay within the law. I have to wonder how you know though?

[ummmm]

If he's convicted maybe the story was in the local papers.

[RATTER15]

The problem with paedophile's, once they are convicted everybody in the area knows about it, making it unsafe for them to be out and about so they move to another area where they are not known, as happened I'm my daughters case.

[agardener]

Thank you all for your responses. I do assure you that we have on numerous occasions spoken to the authorities concerned but they will only act if they are given hard evidence. The fact is and this is why I posed the question, the mother of the children is the one who is risking her children's well-being and she seems oblivious of that risk. As the americans say - she is in denial and will not listen.

[jackthehat]

What hard evidence do the 'authorities' require?

[woofgang]

hard evidence of what? breaking conditions? Surely you can get evidence of that?

[pusskin]

i just have to say this!

if a child tells you that a certain some one has interfered with them --LISTEN and dont turn them away. Listen carefully.

[marval]

There is no way I would let a paedophile anywhere near children. Especially If the children were family. I would do what I could to keep him away.

[agardener]

In answer to the points raised, we knew because the individual eventually admitted it and 'hard evidence' means something that will stand up in a court of law. The problem there is no-one knows what goes on behind closed doors and so I do agree very much with pusskin that we need to listen very carefully to the children.

[woofgang]

can you find out if he is in breach of his licence conditions?

[FredPuli43]

Which are "the authorities" that require hard evidence that would stand up in a court of law? If this man is forbidden contact with minors, there is a reasonable suspicion that he is breaching the order, isn't there? You do not need admissible evidence that he has molested a child. What do the police say?

[pusskin]

Wished i could add more to this subject, but i have to bite my tongue!
Paedos are not far from any ones front door! Listen to your kids and never turn them away.

[paddywak]

It might not be the approved method but like ummmm I would take the the person to one side and explain the situation to him and if that didn't work I've several friends and relations who I'm sure would be glad clarify things for him.

[2sp_]

How old are the children in the household? Can you have a chat with them about what is appropriate way for an adult to behave, and even tell them that they should never be alone with this person? I know you don't want to scare them, but the thought of anything happening to them is too horrific to contemplate.

What on earth is the mother thinking?

[ChillDoubt]

Slightly different circumstances but maybe the mother of the children needs some guidance:

http://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-22305840

If it were a member of my family affected, I'd adopt some Roosevelt policy......

[Ric.ror]

I will come with you Ummm

[ichkeria]

Is this person a convicted paedophile or someone who "admitted it" but wasn't convicted? I don't understand

[Old_Geezer]

Not sure I understood the question, why would I invite a paedophile into their home ? I'd wonder what I was thinking, to be honest.

[hc4361]

OG - typical scenario. Single mum meets chap, have a few dates; he is very kind, considerate and shows a lot of interest in single mum. Everyone likes him - including her kids.

After a while he confesses he has been convicted for the offence - but he didn't do it! It was her word against his and the child's mother put her up to it because........(any old excuse would do).

It's ruined his life, blah blah blah, single mum is the only person in the whole wide world he can trust and he loves her ......

[netibiza]

I would créate merry stink, and keep my eye on the perv the whole time til he went!