Daughter Hit In The Face At School

[boona]

Hi all, please can anyone help me to word an email for school? My daughter tried to push a boy down the slide at school. No acceptable and she has been told off but the boy who she tried to push turned around and smacked her in the face so hard that he bust her lip and the whole side of her face was hurting. When my daughter was sat with an ice pack the head teacher asked what had happened. My daughter told her and the head teacher raised her eyebrows and said she shouldn't have tried to push him. I want to email the school to make sure the boy has been spoken to as I do not believe that his action was justified and that just because my daughter was wrong does not mean that his behaviour was acceptable.

[ummmm]

But kids push each other down slides all the time. So do parents push their children down slides. It's not a violent act.

[Mamyalynne]

If he was three times her size maybe he was wedged stuck.

A good school would usually get both children together and explain how actions and reactions work and what is and isn't acceptable.

You say the boy has history, has this been reported and acted upon?

[jno]

on the face of it, pushing someone down a slide is normal, though it may be unwelcome. Hitting someone in the face is never normal.

[Rockrose]

depends on how he was pushed - was he pushed down the slide in a way to get him off? or in a playing pushing each other down the slide?
Reading between the lines given that you state her actions were not acceptable I gather that she pushed him to get him out the way.
If you complain you are giving your daughter permission to act in this manner again

[pixie374]

I haven't yet read all the thread yet, but I fully imagine both children have been spoken to, the school really isn't supposed to let you know about the discipline of another child- even though it involved your daughter too. I'm sure they will reassure you if you ring or go to see them, but they are not really supposed to tell you...

[Old_Geezer]

Pushing someone who hasn't consented to be pushed is not normal. It's wanting your own way and not caring how you get it. Lord only knows how kids get the idea that's ok. Swinging back at someone who effectively made the first strike is reaction. However from the result it is clear that the reaction was excessive. By all means speak to the head, but accept this is a learning experience for both children, and both need guidance.

[spathiphyllum]

there was recently a story about a girl who was pushed off of a 60ft bridge into water. She broke some ribs, punctured a lung at no point did she punch the pusher in the face.

https://www.standard.co.uk/news/world/teenage-girl-who-pushed-friend-off-60ft-bridge-jailed-for-two-days-a4103351.html

[boona]

Rockrose, no pushing down the slide is acceptable. She has also been pushed before by her best friend and she hurt herself therefore she knows already not to do it and I have told her accordingly that she shouldn't have made the gesture to do it. Yes, I am sure she has learnt her lesson but she did not turn around a punch the girl in the face that pushed her down the slide and this is my whole point! You are taught to tell the teacher. What if he hit her so hard she fell back herself and broke a bone, what if he knocked her tooth out? He didn't get pushed down the slide. He didn't move. He retalliated in a completely innapropriate way.

[sherrardk]

She could hardly punch her if she’d fallen 60ft off a bridge.

[JJ109]

Lets get something straight - most ten year olds when opening their mouths lie. The mother here, loves her daughter and accepts what she says is true...... but lets examine some facts

1. We are led to believe that a butter that wouldn't melt in your mouth sweet little girl went up to a bully, gently pushed him in the back to get him to go down the slide. He didn't go down the slide but instead got up and whacked her in the mouth.

This did not happen like this. What sweet innocent girl is going to do that to a boy with previous. It is much more likely that she is the bully and was picking on a timid victim! She wouldn't dare do that to a known bully.

2) If you are sitting on the slide with your legs down it and hanging on to the edge of the slide or the handles, facing down the slide and then get pushed in the back, how are you going to get any leverage to turn round, get up the slide and whack somebody in the face. As soon as you release your hands, you go down the slide. Therefore I don't believe the girl's story.

It is much more likely she picked on a weak kid and when he was pushed he tried to grab anything to stop himself going down and just flung out his hands and accidentally hit her in the face. He wouldn't have looked according to the asker he was on the slide facing the other way.

Don't believe your kids, they can be angels to you, but devils with other kids and they all lie!

[spathiphyllum]

"She could hardly punch her if she’d fallen 60ft off a bridge."

It's more the consequence she got. Barely any.

So, pushing a kid (or failing to?) down a slide does NOT warrant a punch in the lip.

If the kid turned round and punched her, she obviously did a motion to push, but didn't actually manage to push him.

OTT response this kid sounds like an oaf.

[sanmac]

Goodness gracious, going down a slide really riles a lot of people up. Way too much slicing and dicing, analyzing, interpreting, and judging.

[spathiphyllum]

JJ i got accused of "wandering into flights of fancy" and i think you're not far behind me.

[Calicogirl]

BOTH kids acted inappropriately but that's because they are kids. Apparently they have already been spoken to about it so why the massive drama, both need to amend their behaviour.
As to the girl who pushed her friend off the bridge, how is that in any way relevant Spath. She didn't punch her in the face, because she had plummeted into water and had a punctured lung. this is getting more and more nuts with every post.

[spathiphyllum]

I do agree with JJ kids are little liars.

However i can imagine how this situation went... Boy is known for being a bit of an oaf, girl has been victim of this before, boy on slide winding up people not letting them go down, girl things right, this is just about enough of this and goes to push him down, he laughs because he knows his weight issues prevent this weak girl from pushing him, and in return, socks her in the mouth to teach people he is boss. What a little darling.

[spathiphyllum]

Calio, it's an example of consequences from pushing someone, in this case, much more extreme by it being a 60ft bridge.

[Calicogirl]

Spath pushing someone 60ft off a bridge could be considered attempted murder for that matter, but it's not relevant to this.

[bednobs]

in answer to your question i would be very inclined to ring and actually speak rather than email.
However it seems from your post that your daughter wasn't told off either (perhaps by you but not by the school) and that trying to get the boy told off, would result in you daughter also getting told off at school. All this for an incident that is no longer fresh.

[spathiphyllum]

Yes, it could.

However, i disagree, i think it is relevant.

The paltry consequences of pushing someone off a 60 ft bridge tell us that the consequences for pushing a boy down a slide would be non existent. However, we all know there are solid consequences for punching people in the face to give then a fat lip.