Daughter Hit In The Face At School

[boona]

Hi all, please can anyone help me to word an email for school? My daughter tried to push a boy down the slide at school. No acceptable and she has been told off but the boy who she tried to push turned around and smacked her in the face so hard that he bust her lip and the whole side of her face was hurting. When my daughter was sat with an ice pack the head teacher asked what had happened. My daughter told her and the head teacher raised her eyebrows and said she shouldn't have tried to push him. I want to email the school to make sure the boy has been spoken to as I do not believe that his action was justified and that just because my daughter was wrong does not mean that his behaviour was acceptable.

[jackthehat]

Far too many 'what ifs....?' in the comments above.

Sticking to the facts (scant and one-sided as they are), Boona, the boy wouldn't have hit your daughter (hopefully) had she not instigated the entire thing.
One of the lessons we need to learn as we mature is that 'we' arent all guaranteed to be on the winning side of anything and that actions have consequences.
Your daughter will have learned *not* to try to push unwilling classmates down a slide and the boy will (again, hopefully) have learned that lashing out at someone can result in them being injured. Unless he is a psychopath he will have been quite alarmed to have seen the blood from her lip.

Let the two of them sort it out between themselves.

[Peter Pedant]

jesus which round are we at on this one?
the poor kid must be black and blue by this time ....

[spathiphyllum]

"One of the lessons we need to learn as we mature is that 'we' arent all guaranteed to be on the winning side of anything and that actions have consequences. "

Yes I agree. Maybe this boy needs a spanked bottom.

[boona]

Spath this is the most accurate of the situation. My daughter is one of the smallest and he is one of the biggest. Another boy has left the school because of this boy. My post is about how to word an email. I want to make sure the situation has been dealt with correctly by the school. From the sounds of it non of them got hardly told off. I am not bothered if my daughter gets told off. I just think the whole punch in the face is more serious than just a " that's wrong. Please don't do it again.

[bednobs]

imho the situation WAS dealt with correctly by the school. I'm not sure (as was said earlier) you are entitled to know what the school has or hasn't said to the other child

[calmck]

I would speak directly rather than email

[bednobs]

alo bear in mind that children aren't always truthful, and it's natural for your daughter to play down her part in the incident and big up the boy's part

[spathiphyllum]

I'll write you up a draft, but please don't actually use it, just use it as a template to adapt form?



Dear *Head Master*

I would like to raise a concern I have regarding my daughter and *BOY*.

Last week whilst (my daughters name) was trying to use the slide in the playground *at playtime*, *BOY* felt it was appropriate prevent people from accessing the start of the slide. Due to my daughters history with *BOY* this frustrated her and as we know, she tried to push *BOY* down the slide. *BOY* then retaliated by punching her in the face. This is not the first time *BOY* has deliberately annoyed my daughter or other pupils.

Now, I have spoken to my Daughter and told her that her behaviour was unacceptable. However, both I and my daughter have concerns about *BOY* in the future.

It is no secret to the other parents that *BOY* is not the best behaved, and this is why *(other boy)* had to leave *last wekk? month? year?*.

Therefor, I would like to make sure that the actions of *BOY* were followed up, and I was hoping you could advise *BOY* to leave my daughter alone and not wind her or other pupils up, and I shall advise my daughter not to push or even talk to *BOY*.

I understand they are both children, but I do not feel like pupils at the school should be able to be punched in the face without some sever consequences. This is not an example I want my daughter to be exposed to. She has physical damage to her face (a fat lip).

The problem may be arising from lack of supervision at playtime. If that is the case I suggest you focus this supervision onto *BOY*.

Yours sincerely,
*Name*.

[jackthehat]

Oh dear.....LoL.....

spath - you really aren't helping boona, you know.

[Calicogirl]

Yeah Spath that'll do it. Good grief .

[spathiphyllum]

I'm just trying to be a helpful, a draft has been requested by the OP. Where is yours to offer?

[spathiphyllum]

JTH you are probably right but boona can do as she wishes with my answers, take them on or totally ignore them either way is fine.

[Calicogirl]

I wouldn't offer one because I think it's a counter productive thing to do, but if she sends that it really won't help.

[spathiphyllum]

anything to help anyone out, or just being a put down?

[boona]

Update
Head teacher advised that if she tried to push him down the slide than what did she expect?

[calmck]

Did the head teacher really imply by her remark” if she pushed him down the slide what did she expect” that a slap in the face was permissible. This seems a very inappropriate response from a teacher. Did she say this just to your daughter or to you? I think you should raise your concerns in person. A slap in the face could be considered an assault.

[ummmm]

That's awful!