Daughter Hit In The Face At School

[boona]

Hi all, please can anyone help me to word an email for school? My daughter tried to push a boy down the slide at school. No acceptable and she has been told off but the boy who she tried to push turned around and smacked her in the face so hard that he bust her lip and the whole side of her face was hurting. When my daughter was sat with an ice pack the head teacher asked what had happened. My daughter told her and the head teacher raised her eyebrows and said she shouldn't have tried to push him. I want to email the school to make sure the boy has been spoken to as I do not believe that his action was justified and that just because my daughter was wrong does not mean that his behaviour was acceptable.

[JJ109]

Boona - be careful. To you, your daughter is everything, but she is 10 years old and the story that she has given you is not accurate. There is too much wrong with it. There may be something in parts of the story but she has definitely exaggerated the circumstances to suit herself. She has definitely played down her part amd played up the other boy's part.

It sounds like the school did get to the bottom of the situation, but the result is not what you wanted to hear. It sounds like they blame your daughter entirely. I wonder why that is, if indeed the boy was a known bully.

I suspect that they are treating your daughters cut lip as an accident when he flung his hands backwards to try and catch hold of something to stop him going down the slide.

Therefore by all means ask the school for their version of the events but don't expect it to be the same as the one given by your daughter.

[spathiphyllum]

you should advise that if the head teacher doesn't reprimand the boys behaviour you will take the situation further. I would then communicate with the governors of the school, saying you feel the situation wasn't appropriately addresses.

[boona]

Hi JJ09
She hasn't down played her part. She went to push him. Maybe he did wave his hands and it was an accident or he lashed out? I will never know! I do know that I had to give her medicine when she got home and her lip was swollen up.

[sherrardk]

The school knows how your daughter interacts with other children so maybe you’re not seeing the full picture. You have previously mentioned something about her and ballet/dance lessons that didn’t paint her in a particularly positive way - although I am not saying the boy was correct to hit her.

[Neveracrossword]

Boona, why didn't you phone the school straight after the incident? Even if you couldn't speak to the head teacher immediately, you could have stressed that it was a serious matter and you wanted it discussed on the phone or in person.

[boona]

Sharrardk she can be a bossy madam and sometimes bratty but she tells it
how it is. She didn't try and cover up, she told me what she did. Still doesnt excuse a smack in the face. Imagine if all the children started smacking each other around the chops if they didn't like the other persons actions!

[Zacs-Master]

It was fine in my day. Sorted out the pecking order.

[ummmm]

Not always, Zacs, when my kids were at school there was 12 of them, mess with one you mess with them all (cousins)

Nothing ever happened but who'd risk it?

[Zacs-Master]

Pick on the biggest. Sorted.