He’s Broken Her Heart.

[chrissa1]

My beautiful daughter who has two year old twins has just found out that her husband of 6 years has been cheating on her with another woman. She has kicked him out of their home and is heartbroken.

The girls are missing their Daddy and I can’t believe that he has done this to her and his beautiful little girls.

I’m so angry and sad.

[pixie374]

On the surface, sqad. Many will be too scared to go it alone. But, that doesn't mean the trust is the same. Plenty have open relationships, where they don't lie to each other. But, a bit irrelevant here.

[Sqad]

pixie...LOL....it is only irrelevant to you as it doesn't fall in line with your line of thought.

That's fair enough.

[Ellipsis]

> It's often not the adultery- it's the deceit. Once you realise someone can't be trusted, that's fairly permanent. It isn't about sex, it's about lies.

Just like parties at number 10. It's not the parties - it's the deceit. Once you realise someone can't be trusted, that's fairly permanent. It isn't about booze and cake, it's about lies.

[Atheist]

Ellipsis; And I thought I was drifting off thread!

[Prudie]

Chrissa I can only offer my sympathies, your only course of action at the moment is to be the loving mother and shoulder to cry on for your daughter as she needs.

This is not to diminish the situation but rather to encourage you - I think you would be hard pressed to find a single ABer who has not experienced this situation either themselves or within their families. It's one of the horrible parts of life many have to go through - but whether couples part for good or work it out most tend to come out the other side and smile again one day.

[pixie374]

17:05, not really sqad... I have no objections to open relationships. I prefer honesty over possessiveness.

[pixie374]

Well, I agree, ellipsis, but then I don't trust any politicians... !

[rowanwitch]

Permanent decisions shouldn't be made in the heat of anger. All parties need to take time out, and think about what they really want to happen going forward, trust can be rebuilt but it takes so much effort that Chrissas daughter might not be willing to carry the emotional cost of trying. So long as the children are able to know that mum and dad both love them they will get through like so many children these days. All I would say is give it a little time before getting solicitors involved so claims and counter claims can be sorted without thoughts of revenge.

[Sqad]

I agree with the post of rowanwitch, which she has provided in a much more eloquent form -;)

[pat2604]

/Naturally, the female contributors to AB will quite rightly sympathize with the children, the cheated wife and her mother./

I am female and my thoughts differ.

I sympathise with both partners, including the Dad who has been thrown out. But it's their business and their business only. It's good that Chrissa is helping her daughter, but hopefully she won't be bad mouthing the husband.

These things happen and can be resolved.

I can understand Atheist and Sqad's thoughts on this. Personally I wouldn't sling my husband out if there were young children involved.

[pixie374]

My mum should have done much sooner. Children are aware if something is wrong, without being directly told.

[pat2604]

Fortunately I don't have womanising husband, but like most of us we have had some problems and there have been problems with trust on both sides. But our child's welfare was the most important thing. And I can truthfully say after 50 years our relationship has never been as strong as it is now.

[pat2604]

I agree Pixie children pick up on things quickly, but they can heal quickly too. Relationships can go wrong. My Dad had an affair when I was young. I have suspicions my Mum had more than one affair. I was aware at the time and I haven't been damaged for life. They stayed together

[pixie374]

Mine didn't, thankfully. But I got a great stepdad instead.

[anneasquith]

Not one mention of the female involved. I wonder has her behaviour possible ruined her family.

[pat2604]

I'm with you on that Anne. Too much judgement on this thread. No wise to judge other people's relationships even if you are close friends or relations. It can be throne back in your face later!

[pat2604]

Thrown!

[pixie374]

That's her problem, Anne... nothing to do with Chrissa's family.

[pat2604]

And I agree with Rowan as well.

[Mamyalynne]

My answer remains the same as when I posted it on the 16th.