Is It Normal For My Mum To Be Concerned?

[abbeylee90]

I just told my mum I got a lift with that mam from dogs home to get my covid jab she said be careful with that man he might think you like him one I was on about from dogs home. He took me for dinner afterwards.

[Redhelen72]

No you don't have to go later.

You just have to say no in a polite firm manner. Don't lie, don't make excuses, just say no

[abbeylee90]

He was saying I use to say no so maybe easier to walk an extra dog or something 

[Floko]

I am seriously concerned for you now. He is sounding pushy and he will probably try other ways to have more time with you. You need to stop now.

[Floko]

Can you ask Mum or Dad to take you or bring you home?

[abbeylee90]

That what I thought if I had a boyfriend would I see him at all and I'm friendly with people that slag him off 

[abbeylee90]

No I don't live far floko

[Floko]

Is the dogs home within walking distance from home? If so, just say to him that you prefer to walk home....no lifts ! Be firm

[abbeylee90]

Yes it's walking that what I gotta do on a Sunday coz of the buses and why I'm learning to drive.

[Floko]

Perhaps Dad can drop you off or bring you back. It's about 2 miles . But you would need to explain to Mum why .   It needs to be done and Mum will understand,

[Floko]

OR. get a bus on a day when buses are running and you are not at work

[abbeylee90]

Why I'm learning to drive or why that man giving me lifts 

[abbeylee90]

Its on a Sunday buses are not frequent 

[Floko]

I know,  but this is the present time.... not the future.

This needs to be sorted .

[abbeylee90]

Well I don't even ask or he don't just sees me walking and asks if I want a lift as he going there aswell 

[scorpiojo]

Again, you said previously 

 

 

 

//I appreciate he being kind giving me lifts and going for lunch but he does my head in grabbing me to do it all the time as I'm leaving where I know him from I got things I need to do myself feel like he obsessed with me//

[scorpiojo]

Why accept a lift from him or let him take you out to dinner? Or consider going out for a drink with him (and his friend(s)), or accept the watch you did not want?

[Floko]

It's obvious he is deliberately making sure he sees you walking from home so that he can give you a lift. It is difficult to avoid that unless you walk on a weekday, after work. It is up to you now

[scorpiojo]

..or consider going to a concert, or the zoo or whatever. Why not say you're not interested?

[Floko]

I think you will have to tell him that Mum is concerned 

[abbeylee90]

I just walk another dog so he won't wait or go down later