Miss or MS?

[tinkerbell87]

I am going through a divorce and have just changed my name by deed poll to Ms instead of Miss ( i am reverting back to my maiden name)

someone mentioned that MS is for when ur husband died and thats not the case!! HELP!!!

Just liked Ms better than Miss!

[Lakitu]

I'm a Ms on official documents and my ex isn't dead. You can call yourself whatever you want :o)

[LoftyLottie]

No, Ms is for anybody who wants to use it and doesn't want to indicate whether they are married or not - but usually used by divorced ladies.

Most widowed ladies will prefer to call themselves Mrs anyway.

There are no hard and fast rules - it's just an option.

[LoftyLottie]

I like Miss better. Ms sounds a bit like a mosquito noise!!!

[redcrx]

Im divorced but still have married surname and im a Ms.

you can be a Miss, Ms or even keep your married name and be a Mrs if you wanted

[tinkerbell87]

AWWW brilliant haha PANIC OVER!!! Thanks guys! x

[Lakitu]

I kept my married name too, Red, I couldn't be bothered changing everything LOL

[LoftyLottie]

Although, thinking about it, I would just rather use an initial (or first name) and surname. What use are titles anyway?

[McNoodle]

Sorry, but Ms just makes you sound like you're a bitter feminist type - I know it's not fair that a mans marital status is made obvious by Mr, but when one of my clients is listed as Ms, I silently groan to myself...

[McNoodle]

- not made obvious my Mr -

[Lakitu]

Errr, how is a man's marital status made clear? I wouldn't know if Mr. Man was married or not just by looking at it written....

[ChuckFickens]

^ I don't think any of the Mr men are married :)

[whiskeysheri]

My nan's a Mrs and she's never even been married! :)

[Lakitu]

Shurrup, Chuck! :p

[McNoodle]

Ny nan's called Betty, and her name is Monica! Nans eh?

[Lil O'lady]

In some of the places I have worked over the years, being known as 'Mrs' was a disadvantage and led to your being looked down on as they all fancied themselves as hip media-types with modern outlooks. Took me four weeks once to work out whether new bloke was gay as he kept referring to 'his partner' instead of the little woman.
Seriously though, why should women still be expected to proclaim their availability through their titles?
I foreign parts they seem to simply call you the equivalent of 'Mrs' after a certain age and sod the niceties.

[Velvetee]

I always thought "Ms" was used by women who didn't want people to know if they were married or not.

As I got into my 30's, I always put "Ms" on all documentation as I got sick of people assuming I must be married, calling me "Mrs", purely because I was thirty something.

Even if you were a widow, you would still be regarded as "Mrs", not "Ms".

[Bbbananas]

I know what you mean McDoodle - my dad's name is Raymond but everyone calls him Bill.

I think it came about cos his dad's name was William, which was shortened to Bill. They when my dad came along he just got called Little Billy - which then stuck.

I am, by the way, separated not divorced, still keep my married name but refer to myself as Miss. (I like people to know I'm 'available' so to speak - should the right occasion arise!)

[McNoodle]

That's McNoodle, salagrapefruit!

[joannie10]

my friends and I quite often chat about this - but with no real conclusion. Some friends are married and they are all Mrs one friend is divorced but kept her married name but is now a Ms. The rest of us are unmarried and getting on a bit and wonder if there is a point we become Ms rather the Miss.