smacking children

[zzxxee]

are you for /against
and at what age is this acceptable and at what level?

[Jemisa]

My daughter never smacks her children ,4years & 6.She runs herself ragged getting them to behave sometimes where I can see the solution would be a smack. - All over, full stop.

jem

[carmalee]

I used to tell my children No once and once only - if they decided they had the casting vote they got a smack and privileges withdrawn - don't believe in negotiation with little ones - I was the parent and what I said went - maybe was so strict though cos of where we lived - out in the bush with lots of things that could do them serious damage. Having said that I have a fabulous relationship with my kids and they say they had the most amazing childhood ever! Always told them how much I loved them though.

[RATTER15]

I never found smacking a child was necessary, I firm word was always enough, I have brought up 3 children and they all are well balanced kids, OK adults now and they don't hit their children either.

We bring our dogs up the same way, only more difficult as they don't understand plain English, hitting people and dogs never solves anything.

[pink-kittens]

Smacking is the parents reaching the end of their punishment list and as an adult we should always have more to offer as punishment over smacking

However, I'm not a member of the non smacking brigade it's just I've not used it more than 5 times (or thereabouts)

Smacking should never leave more than a slight pinkish mark and never a bruise

[lotsafun]

im not against smacking my children if they are naughty although i do try to avoid this if possible by given warnings etc. First i will ASK them to stop doing what they are doing, if this doesnt work, then i will TELL them and then i will take action by taking them away from the situation. If they are still playing up then i will warn them of a smack, and then i will take action if they still dont listen

[McMouse]

I was never smacked as a child and it didn't do me any harm.

[ummmm]

I can't really remember being smacked as a child either. The threat was there though.

I rarely smacked mine but my sister screamed at hers and belted them for the smallest thing. Use to make me feel sick.

[jake-the-peg]

Smacking children because they don't do as they are told is no more acceptable than smacking wives for the same reason

[sherminator]

wow! Was that an insight into Mr The Pegs house????!!

JTP Definately rules the roost in his house!!!!!!!

[Tim123]

So you send your wife to her room without any dinner or stop her pocket money, Jake? It's not a husband's job to teach his wife right from wrong, but it is a parent's job to teach their children that. So It's different. OF COURSE it's different.

[zzxxee]

i cant bear to see tiny children who are having tantrums in pushchairs getting smacked it just adds to how frustrated they already feel

[piggynose]

a good hiding never done me any harm, with either a slipper, back of the hand or the belt.

[Greedyfly]

My mother smacked/tapped me if I were naughty and that was very rare. It is the fear (not the right word) of being smacked that works the best. I grew up to be a non violent healthy individual who would probably do the same if I ever had children (which is unlikely). I cannot stand parents who scream at their children - what does that solve?

[NoMercy]

My mother gave me some real hidings.

[Greedyfly]

My father was not allowed to chastise me because he would go too far. My mother was always a calm person who would only smack me if I deserved it, which was rare.

[zzxxee]

ok lets discuss taps on the hand are they unaceptable for say a one year old who hasnt learnt to walk that long but tries to stick their hands in sockets?

[NoMercy]

Whether or not I got a hiding depended on what kind of a mood my mother was in and rarely was anything to do with how I behaved. She was going through a tough time and she took it out on me - but that's something she has had to live with.

[Greedyfly]

zzxxee - I don't think anyone can say.

I believe it is up to the parent who they choose to discipline their children, obviously it needs to be down within reason. NoM's experience isn't what children should have to go through for example.

[Greedyfly]

how not who *

[jake-the-peg]

It's not different Tim

It's using violence to impose your will

It teaches kids that that is acceptable.

Besides which the studies show that It has an overwhelmingly negative effect on children's devlopment

http://www.wavetrust....fects_of_Smacking.htm

[This is where you say "I was smacked and it did me no harm" - and I ROTFL]