If ur children...

[panda-19]

Okay some of u may not know this answer so it may turn out to be more of a rant than a question. If you stopped seeing your children from 2years old to 18years old, would u not try everything to keep them in ur life?? rather than turning them agaist u by trying to make them choose things over u?? Does a father do that??

[Count-A-Strong]

And in English?

[woofgang]

Oh that so depends on too many things for one straight answer

[DTCwordfan]

yes.....i am in that stage but not at 2 or 18......

[panda-19]

think so lol, just dont get why a father would try make his children choose after just getting back in contact

[maggie21]

translation please.

[bednobs]

if a dad has not had the children in his life for 16 years, what makes you think he would want to try everything now?

[DTCwordfan]

thanks maggie - i agree ?????????

[panda-19]

My father was not in my life from i was 2years old til i was 18, when we got in contact he basically told me to choose between him and my friend???? then to leave my partner cause he sleeps til mid afternoon.

[DTCwordfan]

i am not at that and love my two dearly........however circumstances (US vs UK) leaves us apart and it hurts and will do so until they are back in my arms.

[panda-19]

bednobs- everyone deserves a second chance plus i needed to know if he was what people said he was

[DTCwordfan]

well a father ( or a mother) cant come back and ask for those sort of choices........

[panda-19]

sorry crossword hope u get them back

[4getmenot]

my partners mum left him and his younger brother and sister when he was 7, if she tried to get in contact now after 23 years he would soon tell her where to stick it

[maggie21]

thanks crosswordfan thought it was just me!!

[panda-19]

why would he do that?? is there any reason?? do u think he was trying to push us away??

[DTCwordfan]

ask him - there could be a million reasons - not easy i know but if you can be open, you may be surprised - and then make the decision

[panda-19]

when i see him he completly ignores the fact im there plus he lied about more after that. oh well his loss

[DTCwordfan]

simply, perhaps cruelly, yep.................dont do it with your kids.

[CAJ1]

I've just started talking to my Dad after 10 years, its hard work and will only work if you both work at it and can forgive mistakes of the past. My Dad has a habit of saying none of us can say we didn't make mistakes which makes me mad because I don't see how as a child I was the one making the mistakes, I try to ignore it and let it go but my f*ck its hard

[DTCwordfan]

that I can understand - hopefully what you realise that the dynamics that went on between him and your mother are not all one way............