Would Like Some Advice

[treebear]

Some years ago one of my best mates was sent to prison. Before the sentence he gave all his money to a friend of mine. I stood close to him because I needed to know the truth ( all his other friends disappeared at the beginning) I helped him admit his quilt without the need for his accusers to testify. He is soon to be released and recently the person who has looked after his money has given to me saying they have no wish to ever talk to him again. I have talked to his ex wife suggesting that his children should have it., but she too won't touch it. So I am on the horns, this cash was part of his and his wife's she does not want it the person he gave it to does not want it. I took hold of this money because I thought his ex wife would take it. I feel that it is his children that should benefit but how do give it to them with their mothers knowing

[boxtops]

Yes, that's what I meant too. It's not your place to decide who takes the money - give it back to your mate when he comes out of prison.

[askyourgran]

Can't see your problem, give him his money back. If his wife doesn't want it tough, give it all to him. He'll probably need it when he comes out. It's up to him - not you - to give his children some if he wants them to benefit. You are not hoping to cash in are you?

[Zacs-Master]

Set a bank account up in his family's name ie The XXX family and tell them the account number and leave it at that. Jeez.

[jno]

it doesn't matter who it belongs to in your eyes - the law says it's either his or his wife's. I don't know the terms on which she gave it to him, but that's up to them to sort out, not you. Hand it to one or the other.

If both of them refuse it then that probably amounts to giving it to you, and you could then do as you pleased with it - but be very careful about that and get everything in writing.

[treebear]

answer to JNO therein lies my dilemma ..Mrs ex wife Knows its her money She knows that I know it he knows it....... he Gets it his kids school clothes!!!!!

[Dee Sa]

dont do anything, its not your money to distribute, the poor man may be relying on this to make a fresh start, after all he will have paid his debt to society, I presume none of you had the decency to stand by him and visit him in prison or write to him? you have no right to decide where the money goes you are only the keeper. do your duty responsively meet him on the day he returns home hand him the money, tell him whats been going on and who doesn't want it and walk away . I would not call you a best mate at present time.

[grasscarp]

Treebear I would give him back his money. It really is not up to you to decide where it should go instead. You have tried to do that and it didn't work. You really have no option. You came on here to ask what to do. All those who have said to give him the money are met with reasons why you shouldn't so not sure why you ask if you don't want to hear this.

[sandyRoe]

What would he do if he came to you asking for his money and you said you'd given it away?

[treebear]

To Sandy .. I Would Say I given to it Your Children What have you given

[EDDIE51]

Whatever you personally think about it, legally the money belongs to the guy who gave it to you to look after. To not give it back is theft.
Like it or not you HAVE to give it back, the moral question is one thing the LEGAL situation is, it is his money so you either give it back or risk being accused of theft.
Zacs master setting up a bank account in someone else's name is not possible you have to prove who you are to set up a bank account to avoid money laundering .

[jno]

Zacs' suggestion seems sensible: put it in the bank and tell them the account number, then forget about it. I'd be trying to distance myself as far as possible from all this if I were in your shoes; do you really need the aggro?

[treebear]

How can I put this money in the Kids name when I have no parental control??
How will they access it without my agreement .I feel that the community wants the the kids to receive this money

[Peter Pedant]

I just dont see that you're in a dilemma

just a uni-lemma

give him the money when he comes out....

[grasscarp]

I feel that the community wants ..... What community? How many people have you discussed this with?
This is not your money much as you would like to play Robin Hood with it.

[anneasquith]

why did the friend who originally have the cash. give it to you. and why did you take it ?

[pixie373]

I agree with the others. The first thing you said was "he gave HIS money..." so your job is to look after it and give it back to him.

[Peter Pedant]

Treebear - gt logo by the way - may feel that P, the prisoner has acted in some was to his detriment, and this prevents return of the moolah - restitution.

we could call this estoppel aux chaines -

anyway whatever he cant keep the money

[anneasquith]

is there any post that will nor involve the E word ? :(

[Maydup]

How much are we talking about treebear?