Please Help.

[Mrswjen]

Hi all, I really need some advice 2 years ago I stupidly opend 3 catalouges in family's names, at the time my husband was violant toward me and then was posted to Afghanistan and I was on my own with a 3 month old and a 2 year old. I was so depressed and was also suffering from a compulsive disorder. I am not a Nast person I would give any one the shirt off my back. I don't even know what possessed me to do it, I didn't do it out of mall ace or with at intent to anyone I really don't know why I did it. I have never ever been in trouble with the police and my husband is an officer in the British army, well last week my mother checked her credit file and I was found out which led to her phoning the police. They had a appointment at there house tonight with the police, my mobile started ringing and it was my mum so I answered it and it was the police man, I live in Surrey now but it happened in Essex so he asked if I could come to Essex for an voluntary interview and said did I want a solicitor to which I asked well I don't know I have never been in trouble befor he then said that if I had a solicitor it would take hours and hours and I would be kept in a police cell and if I just came in I would just be caution and I would get it sorted. He said if I told the truth all would be ok if I lied I would go to prison. I am very confused as to why he wouldn't want me to have a solicitor I am glad I am getting punished for what I have done my family don't deserve the hurt and pain that I have caused and I love them more then anything I'm just confused as I was expecting to get arrested and have a solicitor? Any help would be greatly appreciated as my husband and I split two weeks ago due to his infedelity and I am on my own in Surrey with 2 very small children thank you please don't judge me I'm really not a nasty person I was I'll xx

[murraymints]

And what's all the nonsense about points ??? Your mum sounds a nasty piece of work...this gobbledygook just confirms to me that this is her being vindictive and evil....I'd keep my distance....what sort of mother treats her already vulnerable daughter like this ? Wish I lived down there you need a hug....xxx

[Mrswjen]

So really they are saying if I come down on my own I won't be arrested and if I get a solicitor they have no choice but to arrest me ???

[Mrswjen]

I live on my own with 2 children app, I can eat, sleep or think I'm so worried I understand I need punished for the past and i should be but I'm so confused as to what this all means, I asked her when they will want me and she just said well they will contact you? That's all she said then she hung up

[Mrswjen]

Sorry and not app

[jackthehat]

That is what you seem to be being told.
It is nonsense.
There is *no* point system in operation.

[Mrswjen]

Can't not can

[2sp_]

Sounds like your Mum is trying to teach you a lesson - in the most ill advised way.

All seems a bit suss to me.

[murraymints]

Read the last few posts again.....this is obviously a wind up....nobody is coming for you...keep your distance from your horrible mum....do you have caller display on phone ? Dont answer phone to her....do you have a nice friend you can go to ? Afraid your mum is a pure b$$$ h. !!!! ...

[Mrswjen]

I know the more it goes on the more it doesn't sound right, but it might be, I was called last night and did speak to some1 I didn't know so I really don't know what to think or if it was to teach me a lesson where they would have got in information from? I really don't know what to think. No I don't have caller display we are ment to all be going on holiday in 3weeks which obviously won't be happening I just want to know what I am faced with so I can sort my kids etc etc this has been the worst few days of my life thank you all so much for your advice I literally have no one to talk to as I am very ashamed for what I did

[murraymints]

You were speaking to someone your mum has coerced to join in this charade...you would have had a visit from local police if this were real....DON'T WORRY ...go on holiday absolutely ...!!! 're read our last posts with a clear head and you will see the transparency of it all....we can't all be wrong and the facts speak for themselves ...your mum has made up all sorts of strange legal stuff which is NONSENSE to frighten you....she certainly doesn't want a solicitor involved as she would be outed...and anyone pretending to be police would be in trouble.....for goodness sake listen to us and see her for what she is....a nasty excuse for a mother....now calm down and get on with the job of being a good mum to your own kids.....xx

[Gavmacp]

Look at the facts.
The police would not of spoken to you from your mothers address. They would of obtained your mum and dads side of the story. Then they would of spoken to you without your mum and dad being present. How do they know that your mother and father did not set this up to get you into trouble.
It would appear that it is a total wind up hence the story about not getting a solicitor this is obviously scaring them!
So tell them you are getting a solicitor!!! I think then the truth will come out.
That is they have not gone to the police and the 'policeman' was just a neighbour.
You sound fragile! I find what they are doing you totally unacceptable!!

[2sp_]

Gavmacp is right. The police would not have spoken to you from your parent's house or in their company.

It's not their job to decide guilt, that is up to the courts. They gather evidence and present it to the PF or CPS who then take it to court.

They would have visited you at home, got your version and investigated further.

This is a cruel charade played out by your parents and some other party. Fair enough for them to be seriously unhappy with your behaviour, but this is a step too far.

[Gavmacp]

Can I ask a few questions?
1. Did your mother and father know who committed the fraud before they contacted the non existent police?
2. If they knew it was you why did they not contact you first?
3. They seemed to know it was you all along. So why would they want to punish their grandchildren. They might be angry but your children are completely innocent and don't deserve this.

[Mrswjen]

They spoke to me from my mums phone :s I really do t know what to think just Incase it is "real" my mum is not letting up if this is fake. And I really do t know who would have been on the other end of the phone :s

[murraymints]

Especially knowing of your marital strife....this is cruel beyond belief....xx

[Mrswjen]

They new it was me b4 they contacted the police, they said they had to to get it off there credit file? Xx

[2sp_]

Call her bluff, tell her you have contacted a solicitor.

[murraymints]

The police WOULD NOT phone from your mums under ANY circumstances...you have NOTHING to worry about...PLEASE read our posts again....it's not rocket science.....you are a victim of the most cruel form of bullying and scare mongering !!!

[Mrswjen]

Im so scared xxx

[Mrswjen]

I'm just going to have to play a horrid waiting game aren't I? X