Please Help.

[Mrswjen]

Hi all, I really need some advice 2 years ago I stupidly opend 3 catalouges in family's names, at the time my husband was violant toward me and then was posted to Afghanistan and I was on my own with a 3 month old and a 2 year old. I was so depressed and was also suffering from a compulsive disorder. I am not a Nast person I would give any one the shirt off my back. I don't even know what possessed me to do it, I didn't do it out of mall ace or with at intent to anyone I really don't know why I did it. I have never ever been in trouble with the police and my husband is an officer in the British army, well last week my mother checked her credit file and I was found out which led to her phoning the police. They had a appointment at there house tonight with the police, my mobile started ringing and it was my mum so I answered it and it was the police man, I live in Surrey now but it happened in Essex so he asked if I could come to Essex for an voluntary interview and said did I want a solicitor to which I asked well I don't know I have never been in trouble befor he then said that if I had a solicitor it would take hours and hours and I would be kept in a police cell and if I just came in I would just be caution and I would get it sorted. He said if I told the truth all would be ok if I lied I would go to prison. I am very confused as to why he wouldn't want me to have a solicitor I am glad I am getting punished for what I have done my family don't deserve the hurt and pain that I have caused and I love them more then anything I'm just confused as I was expecting to get arrested and have a solicitor? Any help would be greatly appreciated as my husband and I split two weeks ago due to his infedelity and I am on my own in Surrey with 2 very small children thank you please don't judge me I'm really not a nasty person I was I'll xx

[murraymints]

Time will bear us all out....you must try to calm down...your mum has obviously achieved what she set out to do....get you sick with worry...nasty nasty woman !! Xx

[Gavmacp]

They sound very cruel!
If you were my daughter I would of contacted you first! Maybe vented my anger but even if I was going to contact the police made sure that you would be mentally safe!
They obviously know you are fragile and even with this knowledge continued along this farce! This could of caused a terrible outcome that could of caused catastrophic damage to their grandchildren.

[Mrswjen]

I thought the reason they honed was because its Essex police and I live in Surrey? And thought that they just phoned from my mums phone to set a course of action? To me it does sound strange but I have no idea if it is true or not

[Mrswjen]

I have thought all sorts over the last few days even thought well if I, going to prison I'm better off ending it all etc as I couldn't cope and don't want to put my kids through that etc but I soon shook myself and realised I need to be there for them despite what I have done in the past etc etc xx

[murraymints]

That would NEVER happen....if a complaint was being followed up the local police would have come to your house.....this is NOT REAL .....xx

[Gavmacp]

If it looks like a duck! swims like a duck and quacks like a duck, then it is probably a duck!
How many people have to tell you this sounds fishy before you say "Gosh this is fishy"!!!!!!!

[Mrswjen]

Yes I can see that, but I'm just not very good at all this and my mum is 1 scarey person and I'm worried if I outed her and I was right she would think I hadn't been punished when intact my life has been unbearable and she would go to the police again or for real etc x

[murraymints]

I am beginning to wonder if this is real and not a wind up for our benefit ??

[Mrswjen]

I had the inkling after the phone call but as I said I know nothing and I have no idea who it could have been if not and there is a chance that it was etc

[Mrswjen]

No truly not a wind up I am so so sorry if it seems this way it really isn't this is what I am living right now and these are the true events of the last few days

[lady-janine]

totally agree with you minty. would want verification from local police and contact from them before i did anything. you are vulnerable and being treated in this way must be unbearable for you. calm down and just wait for visit from local station - i doubt very much if it will happen.

not a very nice occurance for you but there are lots of people here who can help with sound advice.

[murraymints]

Then LISTEN to what we are saying !!!

[kylesmum]

Why dont you just take the kids to the park, get some fresh air and clear your head.
Dont answer your phone ,if fact switch it off, if anyone wants you they'll come to you.
I think you have whipped yourself enough for this, lesson learnt, now go and enjoy your kids, lifes too short x

[Mrswjen]

I know you people on here have been amazing as like I said I have no1 to talk to about this xx

[murraymints]

Kyle's mum ....ditto....x

[Kiki-frog]

And next time you speak to your mother, just casually mention that impersonating a police officer is a criminal offence

[2sp_]

Tell her your Solicitor needs to know the name of the policeman, you didn't catch it so ask if she can tell you.

[Gavmacp]

Can I ask what sort of amount are we talking about here?
This did cause you to think about killing yourself over. So I am wondering what sort of value your mother put on your life? Oh and their grandchildren!

[Gavmacp]

2sp
Gosh you are sharp! I must remember that in the future, do not want to get cut if we ever cross swords!

[lady-janine]

please another piece of advice now that you have unplugged your phone and switched off your mobile:

1. write all this down in chronological order. do it nice and clearly, not as a story but using bullet points and put in the dates and times where you can remember them. make 2/3 copies as you may need them;

2. contact your local CAB and make an appointment to see them or take the children for a walk and go down there. they usually have people who are available to help with legal matters such as this.

they will also be able to advise you if you need to contact a solicitor and will be able to help you find one - if they consider it to be necessary.

STOP thinking you need to be punished. what good would that do for you or your children. none. imo the people who are making you so unhappy need to be punished.