Please Help.

[Mrswjen]

Hi all, I really need some advice 2 years ago I stupidly opend 3 catalouges in family's names, at the time my husband was violant toward me and then was posted to Afghanistan and I was on my own with a 3 month old and a 2 year old. I was so depressed and was also suffering from a compulsive disorder. I am not a Nast person I would give any one the shirt off my back. I don't even know what possessed me to do it, I didn't do it out of mall ace or with at intent to anyone I really don't know why I did it. I have never ever been in trouble with the police and my husband is an officer in the British army, well last week my mother checked her credit file and I was found out which led to her phoning the police. They had a appointment at there house tonight with the police, my mobile started ringing and it was my mum so I answered it and it was the police man, I live in Surrey now but it happened in Essex so he asked if I could come to Essex for an voluntary interview and said did I want a solicitor to which I asked well I don't know I have never been in trouble befor he then said that if I had a solicitor it would take hours and hours and I would be kept in a police cell and if I just came in I would just be caution and I would get it sorted. He said if I told the truth all would be ok if I lied I would go to prison. I am very confused as to why he wouldn't want me to have a solicitor I am glad I am getting punished for what I have done my family don't deserve the hurt and pain that I have caused and I love them more then anything I'm just confused as I was expecting to get arrested and have a solicitor? Any help would be greatly appreciated as my husband and I split two weeks ago due to his infedelity and I am on my own in Surrey with 2 very small children thank you please don't judge me I'm really not a nasty person I was I'll xx

[Kiki-frog]

So they don't have phones at the police station???? Did you ask your mother for the police officer's name as a few people have suggested?

[Mrswjen]

She then said the officer was waiting untill after Egypt to caution me so I wouldn't get stopped at customs :s is this even possible she then said he did nights then said that she had another meeting with him Wednesday at1pm

[Mrswjen]

Yes she said she wouldn't give it to me she would pass a MSG on tho

[Kiki-frog]

No, sorry, Mrswjen, but your mum really is spinning you a very unkind and irresponsible yarn here

[2sp_]

Your mother is talking crap!

Don't be sucked in. This whole thing has been a lie, you were not called by a police officer.

Do not go to Egypt with her, do not indulge her in this cruelty. Cut your ties, you don't need that kind of mother in your life.

What a horrible, nasty piece of work! I'm so furious on your behalf!

[murraymints]

This is getting very very silly...forget it..go on holiday have a nice time...go see your gp as I and others have suggested....pay no heed to your excuse of a mother..if she calls again..hang up..

[2sp_]

(Sorry, I assumed that you were going on holiday with your mother.)

[murraymints]

You planned on holiday with mum ??? If that's the case ...don't go...if it's just you and kids go....now you MUST see what we have been saying is true....get shot of this venomous influence...xx

[DJHawkes]

how do you manage to work with 2 small children and a husband not at home?

[murraymints]

Dotty she mentioned kids in play school..

[Mrswjen]

I was ment to be going with her, when I said I can't go away with all this having over me I need to call the police and ask to be brought 4ward she went off on one, she said that the "policeman" was doing me a favour and giving me a police caution and not a criminal one? So he doesn't have to arrest me first? X

[Mrswjen]

I hate her for all of this it's torture and she still can't own up to it

[cathfromsaron]

you need a solicitor to help you sort all this out.

good luck.

[Mrswjen]

Apparently he has to gather evidence which is y he couldn't see me for 3weeks xx

[Mrswjen]

There is no criminal caution is there? It's just a police caution x

[murraymints]

What utter CRAP ...!!! Tell her to go to Egypt on her own....stop listening to this rubbish....hang up if she calls...

[DJHawkes]

so your parents are pressing charges? Freaky stuff, do they know you're the mother of their grandchildren? Maybe they've forgotten, you should remind them,

[2sp_]

Just to clarify, this policman doesn't exist! Your psycho mother (yes, I did say that), has made this whole thing up. Got a friend to pretend to be a policeman to scare the crap out of you. And it has worked.

Yes, you did the wrong thing using other people's names to set up catalogue accounts. That is fraud. But I don't think anyone could say that you deserve this treatment.

Go to the CAB (if you can't afford a solicitor), ask them what course of action you can take to sort out the mess with the catalogue fraud. If you get that out of the way then your mother will have nothing to hold over you.

[murraymints]

Dotty read the whole thread...mother is making it all up to frighten her..

[murraymints]

With any luck she'll be taken hostage by the insurgents in Egypt...lol