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Hi all, Im new here and am getting desperate. Please read my story.
On the 24th August 2007, I became a father for the first time. I was overjoyed as I always wanted to be a Dad and now my dreams have come true. Then on the 11th September 2007, I was involved in a RTA on the M6 and everything was shattered. I was approaching a queue of traffic in the class 2 vehicle I was driving that day, on cruise control at 56mph. I approached a queue of traffic which was between 150 and 200 metres away. I realised it was a queue for an exit so decided to change lanes as I wasnt getting off the M6. I checked my mirrors and my blind spot and noticed a car overtaking me so I cancelled my decision to change lanes at the very moment and pressed my brake to switch off the cruise control to allow my truck to slow down naturally. My vehicle would not slow at all. All I could see was the white van that was at the back of the queue getting closer and closer. I kept applying the brakes but nothing happened. I then prepared to move my vehicle into the hard shoulder to stop it with the crash barrier whilst panicking a great deal. Next thing I know a blue car was in front of me, behind the white van, and I hit it as I steered my vehicle onto the hard shoulder. My vehicle then came to a stop about 500 yards from the impact site.
On the 24th August 2007, I became a father for the first time. I was overjoyed as I always wanted to be a Dad and now my dreams have come true. Then on the 11th September 2007, I was involved in a RTA on the M6 and everything was shattered. I was approaching a queue of traffic in the class 2 vehicle I was driving that day, on cruise control at 56mph. I approached a queue of traffic which was between 150 and 200 metres away. I realised it was a queue for an exit so decided to change lanes as I wasnt getting off the M6. I checked my mirrors and my blind spot and noticed a car overtaking me so I cancelled my decision to change lanes at the very moment and pressed my brake to switch off the cruise control to allow my truck to slow down naturally. My vehicle would not slow at all. All I could see was the white van that was at the back of the queue getting closer and closer. I kept applying the brakes but nothing happened. I then prepared to move my vehicle into the hard shoulder to stop it with the crash barrier whilst panicking a great deal. Next thing I know a blue car was in front of me, behind the white van, and I hit it as I steered my vehicle onto the hard shoulder. My vehicle then came to a stop about 500 yards from the impact site.
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Hi lonedad,
I just wanted to mention to you some things that might help. If you go to Boots you can get something called Rescue Remedy and another thing called White Chesnut, these are used to help your body when you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed, they can help to calm you down and reassure you. You can also get St Johns Wort which people use for depression/feeling down.
They won't be miracle workers but might help you to feel a bit better. If you wanted to, you could ask to speak to the chemist in private and explain how you feel and see what they recommend, you don't have to explain why you feel that way.
I just wanted to mention to you some things that might help. If you go to Boots you can get something called Rescue Remedy and another thing called White Chesnut, these are used to help your body when you are feeling overwhelmed and stressed, they can help to calm you down and reassure you. You can also get St Johns Wort which people use for depression/feeling down.
They won't be miracle workers but might help you to feel a bit better. If you wanted to, you could ask to speak to the chemist in private and explain how you feel and see what they recommend, you don't have to explain why you feel that way.
Hi lonedad I can't really offer any further advice to the answers you've been given but just wanted to say you sound like a lovely person and I hope it all works out for you in the end. Get the help you need and try your best to stop torturing yourself. You know the accident wasn't deliberate it just one of those things and it could have happened to anyone.
I really hope you feel better in yourself soon. Take care and good luck with everythingxxx.
I really hope you feel better in yourself soon. Take care and good luck with everythingxxx.
Sorry to hear what you have been going through - it cant have been easy for you. One thing I would say is this..
You have a wonderful little girl who loves you unconditionally and she needs you to be strong and a happy daddy for her. Look at her and be proud of who she is. If you need to, focus yourself solely on her and try your best (I know easier said than done) to submerge yourself in her world; her nursery/schooling, playtime, cooking dinner with her, etc. Look into her eyes and see how pretty she is - she will carry you through this, believe me.
You need to try and stop thinking 'what if' all the time as it is just going to make you even more depressed unecessarily. Worry about court when it happens - there is nothing that can be done now and worrying about it is only going to make you feel even more down. I do think you should complain though as the way you are being treated is unfair.
I hope this isn't harsh reading for you but if you could try and be more positive you will see everything from a slightly different perspective and in turn life will pick up for you. Try and take up something new, too, whether it be going for a mile run around the block once a day or something.
You have a wonderful little girl who loves you unconditionally and she needs you to be strong and a happy daddy for her. Look at her and be proud of who she is. If you need to, focus yourself solely on her and try your best (I know easier said than done) to submerge yourself in her world; her nursery/schooling, playtime, cooking dinner with her, etc. Look into her eyes and see how pretty she is - she will carry you through this, believe me.
You need to try and stop thinking 'what if' all the time as it is just going to make you even more depressed unecessarily. Worry about court when it happens - there is nothing that can be done now and worrying about it is only going to make you feel even more down. I do think you should complain though as the way you are being treated is unfair.
I hope this isn't harsh reading for you but if you could try and be more positive you will see everything from a slightly different perspective and in turn life will pick up for you. Try and take up something new, too, whether it be going for a mile run around the block once a day or something.
Im trying really hard to see things positive and sometimes I begin to have a good and then I just find myself thinking of it. The thoughts just happen, they are out of the blue and I catch myself sometimes doing it. Sometimes I think I need more help than what Im admitting too. I have really bad anger issues at the moment. I have a neighbour who lives above me and she just stamps around the place at all hours. Its been going on now for months and Ive made so many complaints and have had so many promises from my housing association. No one is doing anything. She even racially abused me a few months back and the police did jack all. I feel like going up there and doing her, i really do. Ive even day dreamed about it but i know I cant!
Hey, thanks for asking. Im getting through it somehow. I cant remember if I mentioned my neighbour from hell earlier but ive been having problems with her constant noise and racial abuse for almost a year now. It came to a point on Friday where her daughters dad came down and began bashing the door and threatening me. Police dont seem to want to know, nor do the housing association who seem to blame me for being "noise senstive". So to add to my woes, Im now looking for somewhere else to live which really is upsetting.
Court is during the first week of May. Im trying to avoid looking at the calender as it freaks me out everytime I do. I just want it over with. Even Police Officers are telling me that this is no more than undue care so why are the CPS witch hunting me?
My MP is trying to sort me out a further appointment with the quacks but Ive heard nothing yet. Im meant to go back for an update appointment the day before court so I guess thats the best I can get.
Court is during the first week of May. Im trying to avoid looking at the calender as it freaks me out everytime I do. I just want it over with. Even Police Officers are telling me that this is no more than undue care so why are the CPS witch hunting me?
My MP is trying to sort me out a further appointment with the quacks but Ive heard nothing yet. Im meant to go back for an update appointment the day before court so I guess thats the best I can get.
You did mention your neighbour before, I lived in housing executive accommodation next to a horrendous guy and they wouldn't do anything except tell me to sleep in my living room as my bedroom wall was right next to his living room! I left after a few months. Its sad you have to move because of her.
Well, you're nearly there now then and at least then you'll know one way or the other what the outcome is. It seems promising that the police seem to think it was undue care too so maybe the CPS don't have a leg to stand on. Judges are meant to treat people fairly so you can always appeal if things don't go quite the way we want.
I'm glad your MP is involved and is giving you support, hopefully (if you manage to get an appointment) it will help you deal with the stress of it all.
I hope your little girl is ok, keep your chin up and I'll pop back here in May and see how it went. x
Well, you're nearly there now then and at least then you'll know one way or the other what the outcome is. It seems promising that the police seem to think it was undue care too so maybe the CPS don't have a leg to stand on. Judges are meant to treat people fairly so you can always appeal if things don't go quite the way we want.
I'm glad your MP is involved and is giving you support, hopefully (if you manage to get an appointment) it will help you deal with the stress of it all.
I hope your little girl is ok, keep your chin up and I'll pop back here in May and see how it went. x
