My family (some of) eat like pigs. They use their cutlery properly but don't expect a conversation over dinner, they are way too busy shoveling food in their gobs.
always got an admonishment from parents cos I'm left handed - 'hold your cutlery correctly as a consideration to those sitting next to you' - always thought, so sorry but I'm left handed -however, did try to hold my cutlery correct(ly) -:)) tp pugthedog
If only that were true, lcg. I've been to restaurants with them that they rave about. Frankly they are pretty crap but they wouldn't know that because they don't chew their food!
Anyway, the way anyone holds their cutlery isn't really a deal-breaker is it: your not going to not sit at the same table as them or stop engaging with them... it's just one of the many trivial things that we get unnecessary het up about... a bit like blowing your nose on the curtains ;-p