Should he be allowed to go to school with this hairstyle?

[anotheoldgit]

http://www.dailymail....lishment-mohican.html

/// I would feel ridiculous without it, it makes me an individual. All my mates like it and some want it too.' ///

Yes a ridiculous individual it would seem.

[237SJ]

I think I`ll go to work in my (uniformed) job with my hair in a mohican and see how long I last! Rules is rules - like it or not.

[sara3]

but where does it end? say yes to him, and the school rules start to unravel.. earrings, micro-skirts for the girls, they're there to learn, not make fashion statements that break the school rules.

the rules may seem extreme to some, but such is life!

[Kromovaracun]

"Whether we like it or not, eventually we all have to conform, be it at work or elsewhere. I have ot wear a uniform at work, can't have piercings etc- should I just ignore all this? "

The degrees to which this is true will surely depend on whatever occupation you're talking about? But even so, surely that's something to be discovered when you get to the jobs market? He's a kid.

[Kromovaracun]

"the school rules start to unravel.. earrings, micro-skirts for the girls, they're there to learn, not make fashion statements that break the school rules. "

And how exactly do these two things contradict each other? They're only 'statements' because we care about stifling them so much.

[B00]

And as a kid, he (like or not) has to do as he's told. He's been told his (stupid) haircut is now unacceptable, so therefore, it has to go.

[China Doll]

If you want kids to learn to accept the consequences of their mistakes then they have to have an example to follow. Someone at the school made a mistake, the school need to own that and state that in this instance an exception has been made because it was not the boys fault. Anyone after that will not be allowed to do the same.

And you don't threaten to put a grade A child in to a remedial class because of his haircut... It's utterly pathetic.

[notasyoungasiwas]

Agree with BOO

[Frank97]

I think he should be allowed to go to school with his hair how he wants, I was banned from wearing a leather jacket to school when I was fourteen, something that when looking back on it was the start of my rebellious anti school phase.

[hc4361]

Krom, children must learn that rules have to be adhered to.
Many workplaces have very strict dress codes and the employees have to conform if they choose to work at that place.
School is not the place to be a rebel, or 'individual' in appearance. I am fed up of people bleating about their 'rights' whilst totally ignoring their obligations.

The parents should find a school which doesn't have a policy about conformity or cut his hair.

[Vicasso]

If I felt that I had to ask 'Will his hair be a problem?', I think I would already know the real answer.

[sandyRoe]

A haircut like that could lead to anarchy in school. It's the thin edge of the wedge.

[micmak]

I think the boy looks a right p r a t. His mother is an even bigger p r a t for letting him go out like that.

[B00]

I'm stunned that even at home his parent's would allow him to have a haircut like that.

Whether we like it or not, we do judge people on initial first looks, and as sweet and angelic as he might be, he looks like a young thug and (have i said this already?) utterly stupid. I wouldn't want folk ot have that impression about a child of mine.

[sara3]

well, if I ran a school there would be uniform/appearance rules. I'm all for a bit of self-expression, but that's not always appropriate in school time.

people will see that boy in the street in his uniform, and that's how the school is represented.

[Brenden]

He should conform to the rules of the school, but I put the full blame on the parents, and when I see the state of dress of some youngsters I understand why they are unemployable -

[Kromovaracun]

"And as a kid, he (like or not) has to do as he's told. He's been told his (stupid) haircut is now unacceptable, so therefore, it has to go. "

So this actually about authority, then. It's not about learning or equipping him with what he needs to be happy. It's about making him do as he's told.

But surely if we want children to realise that they are to do as they're told, we need to give some kind of reason to believe in that authority. I see no reason why rigidly enforcing an arbitrary and out-dated dress-code purely out of some kind of weird obsession with uniformity on the part of adults.

"Rules is rules - like it or not. "

True enough. But all you're really saying here is how things are - nobody's disputing that. Why shouldn't we question it? Why shouldn't we question whether there's actually a reason that should ALWAYS be the case?

"School is not the place to be a rebel, or 'individual' in appearance. I am fed up of people bleating about their 'rights' whilst totally ignoring their obligations. "

I think that's an awful thing to say. Children are dumped into these institutions for 8 hours a day and for the most part will have been for as long as they can remember. They're also subject to a systematically horrendous society in the playground. I think the kind of attitude you're arguing for is totally unempathetic and intolerant to those who are different.

"I'm all for a bit of self-expression, but that's not always appropriate in school time. "

Why not? This is something we need to justify.

[ummmm]

I agree with BOO.

My children go to a school with rules. I had to sign a contract when they started. I signed that I would do all in my power to make sure they would adhere to those rules. They, the children, also had to sign the same contract.

Rules are rules....my kids break the contract, the school phones me. They expect me to deal with it....If I don't, they will.

I think it works quite nicely...

[daftgrandad]

I do,nt normally answer this type of thread,but I feel I must make one or two
observations on this one.
The Head Teacher must be commended in sticking to his policies for his school.
Once they are allowed to slide,its not long,broadly speaking,before that school
becomes a candidate for closure.
No child can choose his or her parents,but my God,that poor boy has really got
an uphill struggle,if the photo is anything to go by.I truly feel for him,in his
formative years.

[Kromovaracun]

I'd also like to point out there's a marked inconsistency in this policy for those who argue it's necessary for the jobs market. There's a rigid uniform policy in most schools, but then many teens go straight into sixth form and then on into university - a huge gap where there's no uniform policy whatsoever and individual expression is wholly embraced.

[sara3]

Kromovaracun, I don't feel that I need to "justify" my comments to you. they are only my views, and not something laid down in law.

how old are your children?