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Glad her parents can at least relax a little. Feel sorry for the teachers parents though.
Glad her parents can at least relax a little. Feel sorry for the teachers parents though.
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Sort of, Lottie, but looking at the news today there aren't a lot of obviously better stories around. Plane crash in Nepal kills seven Brits is news in this country though it happened a long way away; and the're just starting to publish a story about Cameron promising an EU referendum (sort of), which will quite likely be the front page in many papers tomorrow. But in the meantime Megan's one of the biggest stories happening now.
Everyone's automatically assuming they had sex and that is just basic human suspicion, but if she says no we didn't what can they do, pin her down and examine her? It is not unreasonable to guess that the pair must have realised it couldn't last forever, they would know that sooner or later they'd be discovered, so they surely prepared their stories in advance of being found. Then if they both say nothing sexual happened what can anyone do to disprove that?
"Apparently the teacher's been arrested. The psycho who killed the two police officers got better treatment.
The law as usual is an ass!"
Have to take issue with you there on a couple of points.
The law has been applied correctly in both cases - each individual has been arrested and is being held in custody pending due legal process.
Although the alleged crime of one is far more serious than the other, the law has to be applied equally and fairly in all cases.
The law as usual is an ass!"
Have to take issue with you there on a couple of points.
The law has been applied correctly in both cases - each individual has been arrested and is being held in custody pending due legal process.
Although the alleged crime of one is far more serious than the other, the law has to be applied equally and fairly in all cases.
capital letters aside, not sure what your point is. As far as i can see he has taken a child, and she still is according to the law, travelled out of the country, and if they have had any kind of sexual relationship, which of course she could deny, then he has broken the law. No one knew or knows his true intentions towards the girl, if he is in love with her why didn't he just wait. The relationship isn't new from the news reports, so was she under 15 when it began. If she were my child i would want him horsewhipped, but then they don't do that sort of thing these days.
I can remember an ex pupil at my school dating a teacher a month after she left and it upset some of the parents.
At that point I understand she was nearly 19 and he was 23.
When I saw them last month they were still hapily married and now have 3 grandchildren.
My thoughts were once the girl had left school they could do what they liked.
At that point I understand she was nearly 19 and he was 23.
When I saw them last month they were still hapily married and now have 3 grandchildren.
My thoughts were once the girl had left school they could do what they liked.
The problem with teaching vulnerable young people is their inability to assess their emotional reactions to others in a mature style.
Anyone working with individuals who are in an emotionally charged state - and who more so than teenagers - will be aware that such an individual can easily mistake appreciation of empathy and support as feelings of love and affection.
As a Samartican counsellor, I was warned about this scenario, and experienced it on several occasions.
It is a duty of care for the suppoerter - especially a\ teacher - to be aware of these situations and to deal with them in a caring responsible and appropriate manner - which entails expalining that the perceived feelings of love and attraction are false and transient, and will evaporate very quickly.
What appears to have occured here is that this teacher, instead of using his experience to divert this young girl's fantasies of running away to a new life into a semblance of reality, he appears to have been equally immature in fostering and encouraging them, with no apparent thought for the consequences - as evidenced by 'running away' which has never to date solved anything.
It appears that this man has been both foolish and neglectful of his responsibilities to a vunerable teenager - but I am always happy to be corrected if I am proved to be wrong.
Yes she may have been a willing participant in this fairy story rommance, but the fact remains that his role was to support her through the torment of adolesence, and not to indulge his own imagined 'love' for her to take her to a foreign country with no forward planning or mature consideration.
Anyone working with individuals who are in an emotionally charged state - and who more so than teenagers - will be aware that such an individual can easily mistake appreciation of empathy and support as feelings of love and affection.
As a Samartican counsellor, I was warned about this scenario, and experienced it on several occasions.
It is a duty of care for the suppoerter - especially a\ teacher - to be aware of these situations and to deal with them in a caring responsible and appropriate manner - which entails expalining that the perceived feelings of love and attraction are false and transient, and will evaporate very quickly.
What appears to have occured here is that this teacher, instead of using his experience to divert this young girl's fantasies of running away to a new life into a semblance of reality, he appears to have been equally immature in fostering and encouraging them, with no apparent thought for the consequences - as evidenced by 'running away' which has never to date solved anything.
It appears that this man has been both foolish and neglectful of his responsibilities to a vunerable teenager - but I am always happy to be corrected if I am proved to be wrong.
Yes she may have been a willing participant in this fairy story rommance, but the fact remains that his role was to support her through the torment of adolesence, and not to indulge his own imagined 'love' for her to take her to a foreign country with no forward planning or mature consideration.
perhaps it doesn't deserve headline news, but perhaps it might have done had she been found dead in a ditch, and perhaps that is why her parents were so frantic with worry. Lovesick teacher, or paedophile, fine line perhaps. As mentioned before there have been several cases at the same school, one teacher was jailed for grooming young girls, another is up in court soon.
I totally agree with loftielottie that this was an undeserved incident to get such non stop news coverage. It began only three days after the two policewomen's brutal murders in Manchester and two days after the Downing St bicycle incident involving a cabinet minister.
But no, what do our press concentrate on? A possible sex story involving a willing 15 y.o. and her 30 y.o. teacher. Sums up our media entirely.
But no, what do our press concentrate on? A possible sex story involving a willing 15 y.o. and her 30 y.o. teacher. Sums up our media entirely.
But why Em. concentrate on one missing girl, when there are hundreds of missings teenagers. That is my point. Any missing child/teenager could be dead in a ditch, but the chances are very high that she wouldn't be. She went of her own accord and had been having a relationship with this man. They loved each other obviously. It was very wrong what he did, but I still maintain it has had too much news space - probably because it is a more media friendl story.
andy...once again an excellent post......
Not to get emotionally involved with a client, patient, pupil, is not necessarily as easy as it sounds.....and that is the trick.
ion my schooldays there were them( the teachers) and us (the pupils) and that barrier was sacrosanct. In our modern ideas of mutual respect and relationships, that barrier has been broken down to ensue a more "matey" relationship between pupil and teacher.
There is a price to pay for this ideology.............and this is the price.
Not to get emotionally involved with a client, patient, pupil, is not necessarily as easy as it sounds.....and that is the trick.
ion my schooldays there were them( the teachers) and us (the pupils) and that barrier was sacrosanct. In our modern ideas of mutual respect and relationships, that barrier has been broken down to ensue a more "matey" relationship between pupil and teacher.
There is a price to pay for this ideology.............and this is the price.
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