Mustn't Kiss The Grannies Or Grandads - Unbelievable!

[carolegif]

The Mail Online (can't do links, sorry), has an article where a Miss (says it all!) Lucy Emmerson has advised parents not to kiss their grandparents as they will be prone to sexual abuse! They should wave or 'high 5' them instead!
You couldn't make it up!

[lady-janine]

wot a load of bo**ocks.

[AB Editor]

Here's the link:

http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2535633/Dont-make-kids-kiss-granny-Outcry-sex-education-chiefs-say-high-five-wave-safer.html

I think it's designed to wind people up.

I'm not sure what your "says it all!" comment means?

[lady-janine]

this particular g/mother demands hugs. my poor children and grandchildren. but they seem to survive - somehow. if they tried to high five i would ask thm "which one of us was smelling".

[youngmafbog]

Clearly the woman is deranged. She should not be given media space.

[Peter Pedant]

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Perhaps Mizz E is speaking from experience and it has struck a chord ...
I mean really kissy neighbours abusing their children and not herself of course....

[Sqad]

\\\advised parents not to kiss their grandparents as they will be prone to sexual abuse!\\\\

Wouldn't their grandparents be dead?

[lady-janine]

not necessarily sqad. my g/dad saw and knew my children.

[Sqad]

LJ..OK

[Gromit]

It appears to be one post on a forum that the Daily Mail has picked up on. Good job they don't read AB.

This is not Government advice to parents, and is probably just an individuals opinion, though they might be representing an organisation (but the DM doesn't tell us which).

The sex education forum appears to be a voluntary members organisation set up to aid practitioners. Membership is open and its opinions and guidance is not mandatory or binding on anyone.

http://www.sexeducationforum.org.uk/about-us.aspx

Most children will happily and voluntarily kiss their grand parents. If the child for some reason, doesn't want to, are we really saying that child should be forced to? I definitely agree with the 'miss', forcing a child to kiss at adult is very wrong.

[carolegif]

Miss E is doing research at uni and has no children of her own, so shouldn't make sweeping assumptions.

[vulcan42]

No doubt some other 'expert' will state that a high 5 is physical abuse.

[Kromovaracun]

Haven't read the thread yet, but if the Mail is involved then I'm willing to bet she either didn't actually say anything of the sort or is actually juat some crackpot with no influence or legitimacy whatsoever.

[Gromit]

She is not making any assumptions.

She is saying that affection should be freely given. If anyone is coerced into giving kisses to people they don't want to, then that is clearly wrong. To make a child give affection when the child doesn't want to is wrong. And if the child is reluctant, I'm not sure what the grandparents are getting out of it by insisting on a kiss?

[youngmafbog]

Perhaps we should just let kids do exactly what they want to in everything?

Oh, 'modern parents' do and look at the mess!

[woofgang]

I agree with the article. Children shouldn't be "made" or persuaded to kiss or hug people if they don't want to. Nowhere does it say that children shouldn't kiss relatives, it says that they shouldn't be made to do it or persuaded to do it.

Once again, not really sure where the story is? Surely sensible parents don't make or persuade their children to kiss or hug if the child is not comfortable with it?

[Gromit]

Not everything ymb, just who they want to kiss.

If you want a toddler to kiss you, clearly against its will, then I think there is something wrong with you. This womans advice is to give an alternative sign, a wave or hand gesture to welcome a relative.

As I say, most children will recipricat affection back freely. But the child must also learn that not all adults are trustworthy, and must know it is already to deny any adult touching them.

Not modern parents, just looking after the welfare of your kids. Adults may assume they can kiss toddlers, but it should be a two way thing. If one side or the other is not comfortable with it, then neither should feel abliged to go along with it.