What You All Think Of This ?

[Bazile]

http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/article/38606507/student-raises-more-than-10000-after-parents-cut-her-off-over-black-boyfriend

[Bazile]

aog's comments reminds me of another comment he made on another thread about the fact that he would not like to live next door to a black person , because they play loud music all night

[Zacs-Master]

Appreciated NJ.

So, my revised question is:
Would you be against a relationship with a black man as you believe there's a greater chance of domestic violence in such a situation?

[naomi24]

The girl is, I presume, in full time education and therefore needs some financial support, but if the family come from an area of the US where mixed relationships are frowned upon, it’s obvious that this one will create a problem for them, and of course that is difficult. People generally live pretty much as the rest of their own society lives. That said, in response to aog, an ‘inter-racial’ relationship does not necessarily equate to a conflict of cultures. Both these young people are American so I see no conflict of culture there. I’m willing to bet that his mum’s apple pie is just as good as her mum’s. The question is whether or not her parents are willing to become pariahs within their own community – and clearly they are not.

[Zacs-Master]

That^^^^ is obviously to AOG.
I would remind him that he's so far only stated one of his 'many' reasons he's against interracial relationships.

[anotheoldgit]

Zacs-Master

/// Breathtaking. utterly breathtaking. ///

Yes it makes for uncomfortable reading but it truly is.

/// The answer to their questions is the male adult in the home has gone AWOL, in the black community this happens to be the FATHER. The black Caribbean community has a much higher level of absent fathers than any other group in the UK, the absence of our men is having a devastating effect especially on our young boys this encourages them to turn to drugs, gangs and crime. ///

/// Chief Executive, Tony Sewell of the charity “Generating Genius” stated, “The most influential driving forces inside the souls of these young men –are sexual and aggressive”. ///

http://www.sunlightradio.co.uk/7-news/208-scandal-of-the-absent-black-fathers-in-the-uk

/// Six in 10 black Caribbean youngsters live in single parent households, invariably with their mothers, and this is three times the proportion in the white population. ///

/// The absence of a male role model is seen as a key factor in the "over-representation" of young black men in the criminal justice system. ///

http://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/uknews/1554595/Broken-families-fuelling-black-crime.html

[naomi24]

aog, this young couple are American.

[Islay]

I know I keep getting told the older generation don't understand and they are not really being racist or bigots, they are just from different era's.

But everyday I read something on here that makes me question the above statement!!

[Zacs-Master]

AOG, those links relate to absent black fathers. They don't say anything about domestic violence.

[gness]

Not unlike my situation I suppose....my crazy mother refused to let me stay on at school past fifteen, though I had excellent exam results, then threw me out a few weeks later for dating a lad who wasn't Catholic.
I did have a job by then, with some prospects, but very low paying and as I now only had what I was wearing when she chased me down the path I had to go to work in the crisp factory, on shifts, because it paid well....Lord, I was bored stupid.
I did eventually get some qualifications but I would have loved the opportunity to have gone to university.......and had there been a way to support myself and finish my education I would have jumped at it.....so good luck to this girl and shame on her parents......x

[naomi24]

Islay, aog is reading into this something that isn't there. Why he thinks that a mixed race couple from the US has any bearing on his UK links about Caribbean people is anyone's guess.

[Islay]

Sorry back to the OP.

It is the parents money they can do what they wish, I am unsure of the law in the states but in the UK parents are required to support their child until 18 if in full time education.

It is low to cut their daughter off because of her choice of partner, tbh the daughter is better off out of it!

[Islay]

Still shockingly disgraceful Naomi.

[anotheoldgit]

naomi24

/// aog, this young couple are American. ///

That may well be, but as you yourself have said many times "it is not about race, but culture"

And you are not telling me that "Afro-Americans" by the very name they now wish to be called, follow the same culture as all Americans?

[andy-hughes]

AOG - //But that is not to say the parents are wrong, there are many things against interracial relationships, without the need for one to be labelled racist or a bigot etc. for stating that fact. //

The parents of this girl have cut her off because she is dating a black man.

Not, it appears because like you they perceive a propensity towards violence based on the colour of his skin, but simply because of the colour of his skin.

I am happy on that basis to offer my view that they are racist bigots.

Like others on here, I wait for anything that even vaguely justifies your view that interracial relationships are more problematical than same-ethnicity relationships.

[naomi24]

aog, yes, that it pretty much what I'm telling you.

[Zacs-Master]

Still waiting for your 'many' reasons not to enter a mixed relationship AOG, not to mention your justification of your assertion that a woman is more likely to be beaten up in a relationship with a black man.

[anotheoldgit]

Zacs-Master

/// AOG, those links relate to absent black fathers. They don't say anything about domestic
violence. ///

And I didn't say that all black and white relationships end in domestic violence, except the few that I personally know of.

But getting back to the links that I provided can we assume that all these broken relationships (many more than exist between white couples) ended on mutual terms with a polite farewell hand shake?

[andy-hughes]

AOG - //And you are not telling me that "Afro-Americans" by the very name they now wish to be called, follow the same culture as all Americans? //

Of course they don't.

They insist on difference like their own food, their own music, their own fashion, their own hairstyles, their own slang - lord knows, they are next to an alien species, no wonder these parents cut their daughter off.

Oh, but hang on - all those things apply to differences between people who like in New York and Los Angeles, or Texas and Hawaii.

Oh heck, this culture thing, it's real pain isn't it? How can we know where we are any more?

[Bazile]

AOG
What culture do African Americans follow ?

[andy-hughes]

AOG - if we are working on personal experience, here is mine.

The only black man I know is happily married to a white woman.

My mother and my youngest daughter are both white, and their marriages to white men both ended in violence.

Statistically therefore on my experience, white-only relationships are one hundred per cent more likely to end in violence than mixed relationships.