What You All Think Of This ?

[Bazile]

http://www.bbc.co.uk/newsbeat/article/38606507/student-raises-more-than-10000-after-parents-cut-her-off-over-black-boyfriend

[andy-hughes]

mcfluff - //I am also interested for personal reasons to know the "many" reasons AOG thinks interracial relationships don't work? Care to expand? //

I think AOG's next contributions on this subject are awaited with anticipation by a number of us - myself among them.

He is usually absent early afternoons, and returns later on, and I am sure we will hear from him then.

[anotheoldgit]

andy-hughes

/// I like to think that if a mixed race couple have got to a second date, they have managed to reach a conclusion vis-à-vis each other's skin colour, and decided that they like each other anyway, so colour is not an issue. ///

I think that it would take more than two dates to attend to the issues that can come between the couple, which they might not realise at such a young age.

But it is not just about skin colour or race, but the main problem is the clash of cultures, and although at such a young age and being in love, this might not surface in the early stages of their relationship.

Whether we like to brush over the fact and to be seemed up to date, cultural difference problems can surface at any given time, as in this case her parents attitude, maybe her neighbours and other acquaintances.

No not everyone supports the PC attitude, that is life, and there can be problems much later in life when they decide to start a family, then there becomes the problem of what some mixed race children are sometime forced to endure.

But this is not only a White Bigoted Racist attitude, it works both ways we do not know of the black boy's parents attitude is, for their son to go out with a white girl.

Yes this is about colour, but as already been pointed out, there can be problems over religion, and also some Asian's attitude towards caste, and of course our own attitude towards class.

[Sqad]

Seems a bit unfair......if you don't give up your black boyfriend then i will cut off financial support.
This is not the whole story that we are getting.

[Islay]

AOG what are the many reasons please that interracial relationships don't work?

[Bazile]

The sad thing is that if they do continue with the relationship , then their parents attitude ( aside to the money aspect ) may well , contribute to a reduced chance of it being a successful and long term relationship

[ummmm]

AOG - What planet are you on?

[mccfluff]

"No not everyone supports the PC attitude, that is life, and there can be problems much later in life when they decide to start a family, then there becomes the problem of what some mixed race children are sometime forced to endure. "

so you shouldn't be able to be friends with and or date/fall in love who you want/raise families because of what - racist - people think about you and your situation.

so given that i am mixed race should i only date people of my particular blend of races, as that is not going to be easy to find.....

[Zacs-Master]

AOG, you seem to have had a sea-change of opinion since your
' From the few inter-racial relationships that I personally know of, sadly this hasn't been the case, in each one the black boyfriend/husband has beaten them and then left for fresh fields.' comment, which was all about colour.

[mccfluff]

and that last sentence was TIC before some smartarse comes along....

[anotheoldgit]

gness

/// Andy...I'm certainly not waiting for AOG to justify himself......it's just going to make the thread unreadable. ///

Why do threads turn into threads just about me, am I to be constantly lambasted, just because I have come up with an opinion that goes against others?

As regards your rather rude comment, I don't know about "unreadable" because there are plenty on AB who just can't wait to read what I put, yourself included.

[gness]

Well it's not going to help, Baz.......but if they do have a long and happy relationship this will always come between them and her parents......and be sad for any children they may have.....x

[Bazile]

(Further to my post of 14:21)

Forget to add -

Which is probably what they want , given their comment -

"I'll never forget the yelling my parents did, when they expressed how disappointed they were in me, that I could do so much better.''

[Sqad]

Parents usually want what THEY feel is best for their children and there is always conflict between what the parents think is the BEST and what the children think is the BEST.
A decision has to be made one way or another and these parents HAVE made a decision which needs to be respected.

[mccfluff]

it has to be accepted, it doesn't have to be respected

[Zacs-Master]

How can you respect an opinion that's unequivocally racist?

[Sqad]

Mcfluff.......but the daughter is doing NEITHER, accepting it or respecting it.

[237SJ]

I think you are putting a British slant on this. I spend a lot of time in the States and even in more liberal areas you see very few mixed race relationships. I`m not condoning the parents at all but their attitute resembles the attitude that prevailed in this country a few decades ago. Good luck to her if people are easily parted with their money. Maybe she should fund her own lifestyle by going out and getting a job like most students

[gness]

I'm glad you said usually, Sqad......and not always.....but you can't respect these parents.

There are also the good parents who support and not punish a child they think may be making a mistake.....x

[murraymints]

I suspect it is not as straight forward as we are being led to beleive...

[ummmm]

I have never offered an opinion on any of my kids relationships and that's the way it will stay....as long as they treat each other well.