When Scotland Makes Smacking A Child Unlawful, Here Is One That Could Have Done With A Few Smacks, Anyone Agree?

[anotheoldgit]

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-7534151/Daredevil-youngster-three-danger-according-mother.html

[fender62]

i was caught smoking and got a slap on the backside, did me no harm
parental choice, kids today have become untouchable, do as they want
without recourse, shout yell, talk nicely..sometimes it just does not work, on some children.

[pixie374]

All these people who claim "it did me no harm". Where is the evidence for this?

[Mamyalynne]

Smacking a three year old (or presumably younger if you are saying that's why Lottie is how she is) will not quell a fearless and adventurous child like her.

It's good they are being encouraged to find safe alternatives to keep her obviously inquisitive nature satisfied.

[Mamyalynne]

I wonder if the chap who headbutts folk on public transport was smacked as a toddler?

[pixie374]

My guess would be that he was hit fairly regularly. He seems to see violence as an answer somehow xx

[Mamyalynne]

Sad.

[ummmm]

Smacking is lazy parenting. Much easier to smack than to have to sit your child down and explain why their behaviour is unacceptable, choose an appropriate punishment and stick to it.

[Barsel]

Being smacked can leave a lasting memory. I was only ever smacked once for giving cheek to my Dad and that has caused me mental problems since. It was only after seeing a professional that I can now understand why I have (even now) a 'thing' about what I was smacked for. Sorry I can't explain more than that, but those who say 'it didn't do me any harm' are lucky, because for some people like myself it caused irretrievable harm. I can understand getting a slap on the back of the hand for doing something dangerous, but if a child needs help that you can't give, then seek help from a professional.

[AuntPollyGrey]

Big person hits little person because little person is doing something wrong or dangerous. Little person goes to nursery, sees someone doing something they don't like and smacks them, then gets told off for it which is very confusing. However I don't agree than violent behaviour breeds violence as I was beaten mercilessly as a child by one parent, but have never lifted a finger to my kids.

[ummmm]

Danny - Little kids learn from older kids whether they are siblings or cousins.

[AuntPollyGrey]

Barsel, I empathise with you. I still have flashbacks to what happed to me and its definitely affected my self worth and how I interact with others.

[Barsel]

Sorry, I didn't mean a slap on the back of the hand, I meant a smack, but I think this would even be frowned on in this day and age.

[pixie374]

//but those who say 'it didn't do me any harm' are lucky, //

Not necessarily... it usually seems to be their own assessment, rather than an objective one- and they also seem to be the ones to endorse violence later in life xx

[NellieMay]

I agree ummm. It's totally lazy parenting. To be honest, I couldn't smack a child. My Mum used to leave red marks on the back of my legs. In all other respects she was a good, kind Mum, but I never forgot those smacks. They taught me nothing except never to smack. I am 72, so part of the older brigade who say smacking didn't do usany harm. If you simply don't do something wrong for fear of a smack, then you have not learned anything. Kids need to be taught why they have done something wrong. The one thing smacking doesn't teach is respect - far from it.

[retrocop]

//I wonder if the chap who headbutts folk on public transport was smacked as a toddler? //

I also wonder if the lippy ,aggressive,combative little man( with small man complex) who attempts to disrupt commuters on a crowded train got a smack when he was younger and told it is wrong to carry a knife and steal?

[Barsel]

That's interesting Pixie. I always thought that the ones who say it did them no harm must be less sensitive than myself, but, if they do remember being smacked or slapped and why then it must have left some kind of impact. Which means it didn't affect them mentally but taught them a lesson or else like me, it affected me mentally as well as teaching me a lesson.

[Mamyalynne]

We'll probably never find out the answer to either of those questions Retro.

[pixie374]

Barsel, not everyone recognises how and what they have been taught. Those that say it did them no harm... but go on to recommend hitting children... I would say it clearly harmed them... xx

[retrocop]

//We'll probably never find out the answer to either of those questions Retro. //

Correct. I fail to see what relevance to this OP and why you mentioned it in the first place.

[Barsel]

Yes Pixie, I understand what you mean.x