Ladies Views - Miss - Mrs - Ms?

[smudge]

Just listening to Radio 2 & they're discussing whether to phase out Miss or Mrs, in favour of Ms.

Personally, I've always been happy to be known as Mrs. However, if I were in the unfortunate situation of becoming divorced, I think I would revert back to my maiden name & be a Miss - not out of bitterness, but for ease. Also, both our children are married & no longer have 'nee' names!

What are your views/preferences ladies?

[VINNY100_2]

I couldnt help myself Robinia,ha..ha(:)

[smudge]

You're welcome to join in our lady threads any time Vinny - you're one of us, well not literally!

Thank you jan_bug (anna)! We're off to Cyprus tomorrow afternoon for 14 nights.

I've done all my ironing, but will pack in the morning, as that's the only way I'll remember what I've put in the cases!

Nite, nite all.

[VINNY100_2]

έχετε συμπαθητικό smudge διακοπών...xxx(have a nice holiday Smudge)(:)

[smudge]

Fanks a lot vinny - we're literally leaving right now - bye all -xxxx-

[hellywellywo]

I liked Miss when I was single because if any nice men saw any of my post they could see I was single.  I am now married and I do not object to being A Mrs.  I always felt that Ms de-sexed you and never liked it.

But these days I have to say that I prefer to be called MADAM.!!!!

[bo-peep1974]

My pet hate is being called Ms. - I feel it is short for Miserable - Though I do accept that some people like it. The fact that so many people have distinct preferences highlights the simple "correct form" to find out first.  I would rather have letters addressed to me without a title than Ms used in laziness.

[Angel41]

When I was single I used Miss

[Angel41]

Oops dont know what happened there so i'll start again.  When I was single I used Miss then I got married and became Mrs. I also used to hate Ms as I always thought of elderley spinsters when I saw it. Then I got divorced, kept as Mrs for a while then my ex got re-married and I thought I dont want to be know as Mrs anymore so Ive changed everything to Ms, but I have kept my married surname as I dont want to have a different one to my son. So for all of you that hate Ms as I did there may come a time when you change your mind.

[Dark Angel]

Personally I like Madam, or being called by my first name, depending on the situation. Titles are good in writing, but its tedious always being addressed by Miss, Ms or Mrs. all the time!

[Red_Pixie]

I can't believe all the negativity about Ms that has been posted here - possibly it reflects the average age of the posters??

I am 22 and I see Ms as a great way to keep my personal and professional lives separate. At the moment, I am Ms X at work but Miss X for anything unconnected to work. When I get married I will continue to be Ms X at work, but change to Mrs Y everywhere else. I think this makes by far the most sense!! I'm amazed that everyone seems to think Ms signifies a divorcee... A 22year old divorcee would be pretty unusual!

[Otrere]

I like being Mrs and I am proud to be so! I wouldn't want to be Ms.

[BetsyLou]

I agree with Pixie - i think it's a generational thing. I'm 25 and unmarried, and i use Ms when i have to have a title, because my marital status is not relevant to anyone but me!

And, as for getting hung up on 'correct' terms such as calling a married woman Mrs [Husband's Name], well, who says it's correct? It may have been at one point, but these things change you know.

[BetsyLou]

Actually, sorry, i only agree with a bit of what Red_Pixie says. I wouldn't change my name if i got married, and i don't want to have to remember which of my contacts knows me as 'Miss', 'Ms' or 'Mrs'. Men don't have to think about this sort of nonsense and, thanks to Ms, neither do i... :)

[HeratthePC]

I totally agree with Betsy Lou! I'm 26, unmarried and always fill in 'Ms' on forms. Why should I define myself to strangers as being with or without a man? Men don't have to worry about this kind of stuff, and neither should we.

[HalleFifer]

As a bloke, I find it strange that women generally DON'T find it sexist that their title (other than Ms) indicates their marital status, when "Mr" gives no clue as to a man's wedded circumstances.

Why in these times need there be this biased use of language?

"Master" has now been consigned to days gone by, but why not "Miss" too?

Further, must we still use titles AT ALL? Other than finding another way to begin writing a letter, and the offence that some people would take from "informal introductions" by receptionists, etc., what is the purpose of titles in the 21st Century?

[EssJay1]

I feel I'm getting into this debate a little late.
I'm 43, divorced and single. I've taken Ms as my title, identifying me as either divorced, a feminist or a lesbian. I don't want to be a Miss and be identified as a sad old spinster. I don't want to keep Mrs and be identified as the property of a sad b****** who couldn't keep it in his trousers. It's like you're damned if you do and damned if you don't.
The biggest problem I have had has been the cost of changing my name back to my maiden (good old fashioned term!) name. Passport and driving licence both cost money. My bank wanted lots of i.d. to meet their money laundering restrictions - even though I was changing back to the name I opened the account in. It's still a man's world, I'm afraid!