Unable To Drink At Social Occasions

[joko]

I have noticed over the last few weeks - and obviously heard it in the past too, that some people have not turned up for someones important do, and stated that they 'cant drink', as the reason - whether it be due to pregnancy, medication, special diet, have to drive etc.

but how would you feel if your cousin or friend etc, that you really wanted to come, wouldn't come your wedding for this reason?

to me you are going to celebrate a friends special day - not drink - and that shouldn't be the focus of the evening and your reason for going.
i realise you may not have as good a time, but that's not the point.

i have a hen night and wedding coming up and number of people have pulled out, saying this... and i just think i'd be pretty peeved at them

its a terrible 'excuse'.

what do you think?

cheers

[andy-hughes]

carrust - I doubt it!

One of the pluses of buidling enough personal self-esteem to not need alcohol to have a good time, is the ability to not care a toot what anyone else thinks or says about it!

[joko]

andy, there are a few types that are really bad to drink on - metronidazole is one, but generally, yes, it is perfectly fine to drink on them

[murraymints]

Andy... but THEY don't know that !! Lol...

[friedgreentomato]

A few drinks and a cab home how ridiculous!!

It means new outfits, more than a few drinks, and the wedding present is not cheap.

I attended a wedding last week and it cost us over £800 stupid money and I have turned down invites to friends wedding coming up with excuses because I am embarressed at not being able to afford it !

[cassa333]

I totaly agree it is a very poor excuse if you can't have a drink so can't be bothered to go. There can be extenuating reasons (recovering alcoholic etc) but at least they have told you they aren't going to go. I had a big 0 party last week and about 1/3 didn't even turn up. If I had known I wouldn't have done so much food.

[Iluvspikey]

I agree, it's a pretty poor excuse - I have the odd glass of wine with a special meal - say somebody's birthday or Christmas. I'm not a kill joy and alway enjoy myself - I can't understand the importance put on alcohol. If somebody won't come because they can't drink then their friendship with you obviously didn't mean as much to them as it did to you. Put it down to their loss and ignorance, and don't invite them again.

[murraymints]

Spikey....not what you said this morning...lol x

[tonyav]

Spikey, two 7 litre jugs !.

[Iluvspikey]

you drank them not me!! I was on black coffee as usual at that time - I'd gone back to bed next thing I know is you, minty calling me to make tailcocks - didn't even now where I was going!

[Iluvspikey]

If you go back and look tonyav, I said 7 two litre jugs,

I bought a box of ten from a florists supplier once to do flower arranging at the fruit and florist show a few got broke.
Sorry for going off topic Joko

[tonyav]

Well Spikey, you know what she's like, you've seen her on a Sat night !.

[murraymints]

Yoo were..hic..macnisificant spikey hic....

[tonyav]

If you go back and look tonyav, I said 7 two litre jugs,


Sorry Spikey.

[AlwaysConfused]

I must admit, I'd say anything to get out of going to some social occasions, especially weddings!

At a party, I plan to have a few, and plan my sleeping or travel arrangements. The last funeral I went to, for various reasons I planned not to drink. However, every time I looked around, I had a pint in front of me, from people I didn't even know!

[SlackAlice]

I agree it's a terrible excuse.

I am often unable to drink alcohol at some "do's". Why, because I'm the designated driver for that night. I don't need a drink to enjoy myself and being the fool comes naturally.

[joko]

FGT - don't be ridiculous!
£800 for a mates wedding? you must be mad!

you don't HAVE to have new outfits at all!
not everyone buys a new outfit for a wedding you know!

i have never in my life bought an outfit just for a wedding.

And you don't HAVE to buy an expensive gift either you know!

as as for 'more than a few drinks' - well that's the point of the post isn't it?
the point is you don't have to buy loads of drinks at all. you can just have a few. you can still attend. your presence is more important than an expensive gift or outfit.

if they were short on cash and would rather the person was there, rather than refuse to come because they weren't loaded.

[fruitsalad]

I never drink at any social occasions I want to remember the good time I had.. and to sit and listen to the drunken ramblings of many a folk is entertaining in itself

[murraymints]

Fruit..especially when you can fabricate events to horrifying and confuse in ensuing conversations....where DID you go with Bill...saw you two leave early...etc etc.....

[fruitsalad]

LOL @ mm...great fun to be had

[friedgreentomato]

Well my live round the corner from every one of your friends but some of us don't so yes attending a wedding can cost up to £800