Why Do Some Guys Pick Body Over Face?

[MelanieH86]

I googled this a lot, and I see that most guys all say that they will not date an ugly girl. And they will say they will take the chubbier girl with the prettier face over the ugly girl with a thin body. I would like to meet these guys because I am always overlooked because of my body. I am overweight (I am working on losing weight) and I get turned down all the time. There is this guy I am in love with, and he chose some ugly bitch over me just because her body is hot. She is hideous and disgusting. Her face is the ugliest thing in the world, so why would her choose her nasty ass? And this happens all the time, and not just to me but other women I know. Us beautiful gorgeous girls get overlooked for some ugly skinny thing. I could understand if she were skinny and hot, but she is NOT. Ugly girls don't deserve love.

See, I can lose weight and be even more hotter than I am now. She can't change her face. Ugly pathetic loser of a bitch she is.


So here is the question and be perfectly honestly. The ugly pathetic loser of skinny girl, or the beautiful gorgeous girl who is curvy. Real women have curves anyway.

[whiskeryron]

Hey Melanie, I guess you are a Stateside Gal. This site is mostly a UK one & I think if you moderate your language somewhat you will get a much better response.

WR.

[jomifl]

Perhaps the answer lies in evolution. Primitive man had no way of knowing if a potential mate was already pregnant except by her body shape. It is easier to tell if a woman is pregnant if she is slim, it shows very quickly. A fat woman may or may nor be pregnant, it is difficult to tell. So, a primitive man is more likely to propagate his genes if he goes for the slim woman who doesn't look pregnant rather than the fat one who looks pregnant all the time.
As you have by now noticed men have a degree of 'primitiveness' that isn't restricted to body hair and killing small animals. The qualities that men look for in a woman are those that are likely to make child rearing more successful.

[Old_Geezer]

Venting is fine.
Beauty is in the eye on the beholder. You will be prejudiced since you are emotionally involved and disappointed.
Not every guy finds skinny attractive just and not every one find fat attractive. Horses for courses, but the majority probably prefer something in between.
Hang in there to find the right person for you, meanwhile try not to direct your disappointment at some innocent rival. It's a waste of energy and will make you feel bad. Give it time.
BTW if you are asking a genuine question you ought not phrase it to encourage one response. It doesn't get folk to sympathise.

[Graham-W]

It would be easy to say," You don't look at the mantelpiece when you're poking the fire" but that would be rather harsh.
Subconsciously men are looking for women to bear their children so wide, childbearing hips are attractive. Breasts big enough to provide food for the babies. Generally healthy and strong. Possibly slightly subservient, the man is the master after all (in history). After that personal choice may enter the equation.

[Brinjal]

My very attractive, lovely body great natured friend caught her husband cheating with a skral unattractive *** who had already broken up another marriage. He left his wife to be with this woman. So. It isn't just looks body etc there are obviously other factors which count. His relationship with his over didn't last six months when he came crawling back but my friend wasn't interested.

[tonyav]

Ah but those errrrrr larger lady's can be dangerous, look what happened to me !.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yttivYeqnMA

[RATTER15]

Personally I wouldn't touch you with a barge pole, not because of the way you look but because of your repulsive attitude!!

You say: //Ugly girls don't deserve love.// please explain why?

Im actually thinking this a wind up!

[tonyav]

So do I RATTER ;-)

[TWR]

"Shy Girl"


Saturday mornin, shake off the sheets and open my eyes
baby, do you know what's going on tonight?
I miss someone maybe she's not a crazy girl like you
But let me tell you baby, she's gonna do

No hesitatin, there's gonna be a picture showin now
And maybe if she's lucky dinner on the side
Well girl I said I loved you
Well I wrote you a song, played it many times
With so many rhymes, what did you do?

Girl, I've been waiting for oh so long
I'd like to see him write you a song, you're my

[Chorus]
Shy girl she's the only thing that keeps my mind
from wondering every time I'm thinkin bout you
Shy girl, it's not that I don't mind the silence every time
It's just not you

Your friends are careful, I try to read the look in their eyes
Like there all saying, "Man, I feel bad for this guy"
Maybe it's paranoia, it's all in my head I say to myself
Or maybe it's in my heart sitting on the shelf

Girl I can say I don't need you
But I know in my heart it's not true

[Chorus]

Girl I can say I don't need you
But I know in my heart it's just not true

Think about this Mel!

[Baldric]

Never a problem with a dimmer switch on the bedroom light!

[jomifl]

Personal experience Baldric? do tell...

[Baldric]

No, just a Baldric helpful hint!

[joko]

you say you are not a bitter, twisted spiteful, jealous, and childish person - because you wrote your post when you were 'very very angry' ... well you are still saying similar things, so stop trying to bullsh!t us.

why would you be 'very very' angry? - he doesn't like you - get over it!
it may not be nice to not be liked back but most of us don't carry on like jealous brats about it.

you are a vain, selfish and snide person - and you may think you're beautiful, but i'll bet your inner hate is written all over your face.

[Traci66]

You say you've been friends with this guy for years, maybe that's the problem, he sees you as a friend and nothing more, I know I wouldn't date a guy I'd been friends with for years, it would be like going out with my brother.

[Mosaic]

My dear, I believe the phrase men use is, they don't look at the mantelpiece whilst poking the fire.
The young lady whose face you detest may have other qualities that attract men, such as conversational ease, easily removable pants, or a stack of cash.
On the other hand, bitterness and resentment are unattractive qualities. Maybe you need to work on the stuff between your ears before you moan about life not going your way?

[cazzz1975]

You dont know he has gone for body over face, you have assumed because you find her unattractive yourself, she might have a twinkle in her eye or a great personality that attracted him.

whilst its sad he doesnt reciprocate your feelings, make your peace with the situation and move on where there are plenty more fish in the sea.

[MelanieH86]

Yeah nobody knows my true feelings. Can people read my mind? I've never said anything like that to anyone's face. The reason I am feeling bitter and resentful now is because I am being insulted. Like I said I was out of line with the post. I shouldn't have said the things I did. So what is the point in continuing to throw it in my face?

That's alright. I had time to cool off, and I found another question and answer site. I explained the situation in detail. I told them everything that happened between me, him and her. I explained past experiences with him. I explained situations with me and dating history. And guess what? Not one person kept saying:

"Oh you are such a horrible person, she has personality you don't, now stop eating chips."

They gave helpful answers. They didn't call me a bitter resentful person. They didn't call me immature for being upset. I admit some people on here did give me helpful answers and I am going to go through this to see who deserves best answer. After that, I am done with this site. I come on here for advice and I get attacked and called a horrible terrible person for no reason. I wasn;t being mean to you. You've never met me. You don't know anything about me. I don't tell people my true feelings. I am a very shy girl, so there is no way in hell I am going to call other girls what I called her in this post to their faces. No one who knows me knows if I have a poor attitude or a bad one since they've never seen that side me. And yet people on an internet site think they know every single thing about me by just one post I posted when I was angry?

The people at the other site did not say one thing about bitter, anger, immaturity, or anything like that. They read my whole post without judgement. Granted I didn't post it angry and I didn't insult the other girl in that but still. They are being nicer than here. I thought I liked this site, and was planning on staying and doing more Q and A here but forget that. People here have nothing better to do than to insult people on the internet, and act like they know their whole life story by one post.

I will not be reading over anymore questions, so don't bother answering. I am picking a best answer for someone and then leaving.

I have to take my nephews out to the park for the day tomorrow. If I was as horrible as you say I am would I love my nephews and spoil them? My sister needed money last month. I lent to her, and she never has to pay me back. If I such a terrible horrible person like everyone on here is saying, would I have done that? Would I have given someone a ride daily without asking for money for gas if I was such a horrible person? Even though I actually would prefer gas money because it's 40 mins out of my way, but I will never ever speak up and say how I feel. I keep everything bottled up and complain about it in my blog.

[ll_billym]

Keeping purely to the 'looks' side of things I prefer slimmer girls because I think they feel nicer to touch and don't wobble. I think that because it is generally 'harder' to keep slim than not to that it shows more diligence of character and means that they care about how they treat themselves.

That's my preference and my opinion.

[DTCwordfan]

Well, simply put, Melanie, I hope you enjoy the other site.

Sportsanswerbank is a far more considerate site than here, full of loving folk who will embrace you with open arms and all the rest.