never meet your heros

[mollykins]

I am in a kind of 'never meet your heros situation?'

Everyone thinks my dad is great, funny, kind, hard working. My next door neighbour who recently fell out with her only son, said she wishes he was more like my dad.

But i have to live with him and can't wait to move out. (please noone complain that i'm moaning, you don't have to live with this man)

~He always complains he has no money, yet buys at least £15 of food that is unecessary each week, then wastes half the meat - another ten pound at least, by not using the left overs. Yet he smokes and must spend £15-20 a week on that, so we could save about £50 a week (he tries to give up but he admitted that he doesn't really want to, but says he could easily if he wanted to)

~He is such a fussy eater, its rediculous, and saturday is normally the only night i get to have rice, noodles or pasta, and if i get a big pack of noodles i have a stir fry instead of a proper roast on a sunday. But the rest of the week its potatoes and rarely anything else.

~He took no notice in my school work, and didn't even know what gcse subjects i took, he thought i'd taken art instead of maths! But when i got asked to stay behind for revision, for my up coming exams, he told me off for getting a detention, which it wasn't, but he thought i got it because i weren't paying attention in lessons and needed to catch up.

~My oldest brother is 24 years older than me, and i think he thinks that he can bring me up the same way that he did him and my other siblings, but times have moved on, until i'm eighteen the only boy thats allowed round, is my gay friend, who i've known since we were 8.

So am i living in a never meet your heros situation, and if people had to live with him all of the time, would they feel the ame way about him do you think?

[mollykins]

I injured my foot ice-skating, but do cycle to school most days (20 minutes each way, unless its raining etc) so the doctor i saw looked at my food diary and said that if i eat healthier, i should be alright, if i don't do much other exercise. But my dad won't make the food healthier and i find it hard to fit more exercise in.

[ummmm]

Molly....at your age I was working full time and financially supporting my Dad because he was a gambling addict. I had to drop out of school (A Levels) because I couldn't do both. I chose to look after my Dad.

Now stop moaning about something so trivial...

[mollykins]

We can't afford to keep wasting the food, thursdays and fridays we eat leftovers, but that doesn't normally involve much meat because he's given the spare chop etc to the dog.

Nope, i haven't got a job and i can't afford to buy my own food and havent got the time to cook for myself even if i did have my own food.

[mollykins]

i didt start off moaning, i statted of by asking, am i in a kind of 'never meet your heros situation?'

[ummmm]

Why don't you start a blog?

You're obviously not interested in what people are saying back to you.

[Sachs]

Hi Molly,
when money is tight your parents will buy what the majority will eat unfortunately and see your requirements as being picky. You may be need to get some part time work that will fund your foods x

[mollykins]

So th fact that us three could die from heart disease because he won't lsiten to the doctor and eat healthier is trivial umm?

[daffy654]

Why haven't you got the time? If you are so bothered by the food offered to you then you would make the time to cook your own somehow.

[ChuckFickens]

Of course she hasn't got the time, far too busy typing about how she hasn't got time to cook!

[ummmm]

Yes Molly....very very trivial.

Seriously...what is he cooking that is so bad? You're talking about meat and veg.....not McDonalds...

[mollykins]

umm i've directly replied to what several people have said, including you, you're the one who obviously isn't reading what is being said.

I live in a little village and to get to the nearest town, where there a few jobs and back again on a bus, with an explore card is £4.50. And the only jobs i've recently seen advertised are part time jobs, for a couple of hours at a time, once a week where i would earn about £15.

[jackthehat]

In addtion to having someone to cook and clean for you, would you like to get someone in to exercise for you, too ?

What do you do that leaves you no time for getting off your backside and burning a few calories ?

[daffy654]

If you are trying to lose weight mollykins then I can recommend the 'nothing but toast for 2 weeks' diet that i've been on, not very healthy and leaves you feeling very weak but the weight doesn't half drop off....stick to whlemeal bread though, less calories per slice. (joke....in case anyone thinks i'm serious)

[pericat]

There seems to be lack of communication in your house molly - maybe a family sit Dow and chat might help

[ummmm]

You might have answered Molly but you haven't directly acknowledged what people have said.

What about Daffy's situation?

What about my situation at YOUR age?

You sound like a spoilt brat...tell your Dad to get some over time in to accommodate your needs...For Funks Sake

[mollykins]

My computer is really slow so i have the internet open and i'm doing revision.

So far this morning, i've looked at how stuff like alcahol and ectacy affect the hypothalamus's (in the brain) release of anti-diuretic hormone, which then affects the amount of water that reabsorbed in the . . medula i think, i'm just up to that bit, of the kidneys, in your loop of henle.

[ummmm]

Like I said....start a blog.

[Sachs]

molly,
put an ad in your local shops and advertise yourself as a cleaner, no I'm not joking! I hope you find an answer to your problems! xxx

[jackthehat]

Great.
Do an hours revision, grab the dog and go for an energetic walk and play in the local park/fields.
Back home grab an apple and do another hours revision.
Whip yourself up a low-calorie lunch.
Then go for a cycle for 30 mins.
Back home, an hours revision.............then finish for the day.
When it comes to your evening meal, tell your Dad how much you appreciate him, ask what you can do to help in the Kitchen; offer suggestions, without criticising.