Would you try to change yourself?

naomi24 | 11:23 Wed 02nd Feb 2011 | Society & Culture

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I've just been watching the Wright Stuff where they were discussing people who change themselves in order to improve their social standing. Would you try to change yourself - eg your speech, your looks, your body, your dress, your grooming, your manners, etc - if it meant improving your chances of getting a better job, perhaps a wealthier husband/wife, and generally moving up the social ladder?

If so, what would you change and why?

i dont believe it ??

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naomi24

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Always one of my main bugbears, but I've achieved that Boxy through necessity, proving it can be done - when necessary. ;o)

boxtops

I know naomi, it could be done, voice training and practice and the like - I've just never done it, I get by with a microphone when necessary!

welshlibranr

Not a chance!.......I am who I am!.........End of!...............like me or loathe me!........that's me!..........

naomi24

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Boxy, in my experience confidence is enough.

naomi24

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Welsh, you sound pretty determined.

welshlibranr

naomi, yes I suppose I am quite determined!......but why pretend to be someone that you are'nt?............don't see the point!...........In the end we are all what we are!.....

Andyvon

I didn't like myself for many years and I would have wanted to change. However, once I reached about 40 I realised I was happy with myself. Now I wouldn't change myself at all. I'm 48 and when I look back at my life I've had a hell of a time.

I had a terrible time as a child. I lived abroad until I was 12 but came back for a month or several at a time depending on my father's airline postings. In the UK I had an evil headmaster who did various things over 4 years. I never fitted in at school here after 12 and cracked totally when I was 15 not speaking to anyone. I've spent most of my life like that. I went into business when I was 24 and I paid my mortgage off when I was 29. I've always had periods in life where I mentally collapse and shut down and I come to hours, days, weeks or months later. The business and my first wife fitted around the periods I 'wasn't available'.
I met my second wife and life is now so good, despite her having an accident and now needing 24 hour care from me. I still shut down for periods then we both get care. We still travel which I have always done and I've always been to more separate countries than my age. I lost most of my hair by the time I was 40 and I smoked from the age of 9 until my 40th birthday. I've never worried about being attractive to other women and I'm happy about my weight being rooted at 18 stone which is 3 stone over the ideal weight for my height.

I did have a career - a wild one from one crisis to another! However, if I was told today I've got a month to live I would look back and think I'd had a hell of a ride. If I had my time again I wouldn't change a thing!

naomi24

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Ludwig, yes I think that was the article that triggered the discussion.

naomi24

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Andy, that's interesting.

sandyRoe

There are two things I'd like to change about myself. I wish I could stop picking my nose in public and biting my nails.

Nadis

It took me nearly half a year to build up the courage to put forth a question on here way back in 2006 so I suppose that was a big change and confidence booster.

sandyRoe

Jus t to clarify , I don't pick then lick.