Keyplus; and 4, an understanding that the original Koran was written for people, and by people, of another place in another time, with very different values and mores to modern Western ones.
Have you listened to what Hamad Abdel-Samad has to say in the above link on this subject? He speaks of Germany where he lives, but it is applicable to all European societies when he says that though 'Muslims' can be part of western society, Islam can not and gives compelling reasons why this is so.