why isnt he doing it for me anymore???

[kazzianne]

no sarky answers please!!

I have been with my guy almost 2 years - we still make love as often as we did in the beginning but whereas I used to climax every time,now I dont at all.i still love him as much,and fancy him as much,but nothing happens for me.He doesnt have a clue,I have started to pretend,but he isnt doing anything different to when I met him,so why cant i climax??

[kazzianne]

that would make sense if it wasnt for the fact that im noly doing it because I cant with him at the mo!! Im in a vicious circle arent I.

[kazzianne]

only*

[uptheboro]

well yes i suppose. but you have to ask yourself are you doing it too much with yourself and are you thinking of him when doing it.

[kazzianne]

no im not doing it too much,just sometimes,and yes i do think of him.

[barry&betty]

i haven't got any suggestions other than what everyone else had said. i just wanted to wish you luck, you obviously love him very much i hope you can get things back on track xXx

[kazzianne]

thankyou barry&betty,that's very nice of you.I do have a hell of a lot of stress at the mo,so maybe thats it,It probably doesnt help.And maybe subconsciously Im expecting no to and so I dont!!

[Litchick]

kazzianne, I'm sorry to hear you are having trouble. It really is an awful feeing. The one thing that (unless I read too fast and missed it) I haven't seen in any of the answers is the suggestion to stop worrying about it for now. It is so much on your mind and looming so large in your lovemaking that it is indeed you thinking it won't happen and so it doesn't. For now, just concentrate on making love for the closeness and pleasure that that brings not for the intention of climax. You said you are stressed -- when the things that are stressing you calm down and you are not so FOCUSED on climaxing it will come easier. Good luck honey.