emotional pains

[funkymoped]

i read something earlier that made me stop and think. some people suffer so much in their life, but never stop fighting ! im talking about emotional pain. ive had some real bad times in my life, as most of us have. i bounced back because its human nature. now i wonder if i could keep getting up after each blow. i always have been pretty strong emotionaly, but there are so many people that can fight back harder, and become stronger from their experiances..

i dont really have a question, just a thought i wanted to share.

[SarCaustic]

There was a girl that I knew in school who went through a very difficult time (not your average run of the mill problem) when she was younger and as an adolescent she was a very different person - you might say she was a drama queen of epic proportions (amongst other things) - but she was misunderstood, she was essentially a very nice person; people just didn't know the experiences that mitigated her flaws. This girl was quite weak psychologically and it was obvious to everyone that she had problems, people just didn't know what.

I knew another guy who came from a more than dysfunctional family - he'd seen and experienced a few bad things in his lifetime. They made him stronger, more determined to succeed and better adjusted socially than anyone else and I really admired him.

Survival is indeed human nature, but people survive in different ways. I always said the product of extreme experiences is either great strength or great weakness.

[loopyc]

hi funkymoped like you i have had so many knocks in my life especially the last couple of years and every time i think i can take no more then something else happens and i cope. it is very true that what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, the bad times i have had have made me in to the person i am today a lot stronger, caring and empathic than i was.

[Dan Glebitts]

nicely said, funkymoped, i think its the human spirit that keeps us going and also, maybe a bit of grit and determination helps us that little bit farther. the glass is always half full but dont forget it can always be spilt!
if someones prepared for anything there is no stopping a that person......things can only get better :-)

[~Wingnut~]

Yes Funky I know exactly how you feel. How very deep of you to feel this way and I, like you, wonder how the hell I could bounce back from certain things that others do. I don't think of myself as a strong person but then I look back at what we have been thru, Like you say human nature takes over and you just soldier on with what life has thrown at you and I don't think you see how people on the outside see it when they tell you how strong you are, because you just don't look at it like that when it is you going thru it.
I look at others on the news, tv progs etc who really have been thru it and I just feel so small compared to them.. it's definatly food for thought funkymoped :o)

[raysparx]

funky,you have raised a good point,you have to have crap times to truly appreciate good times,I answered a similar post a lttle while ago about happines,,our family have been through some crap in the last 6 years but we came through it stronger, first of all my wife had cancer,we got past that,then 3 years ago my youngest son had a bad accident at work, broken back in3 places hip shattered,had to have hip screwed back and plates in back,we got past that, 2 years ago my darling old mum died, we are getting over that, we got over these things with love,laughter,tears and talking,

At the moment things are good but if we hadn't had the crap would we really appreciate what a great thing it is to be alive,I hope this doesn't sound to miserable, I don't mean it to,enjoy every day for as long as you can, Take care, Ray

no life experience is wasted,

[spk]

I think its very true that what doesnt kill you makes you stronger, and everybody copes with things differently. I have been at the stage where Ive though if anything else goes wrong I will go crazy and inevitably something else goes wrong and I still manage to get through it. Life is tough and full of challenges but you wouldnt appreciate the good stuff in the world if you didnt have to work for it. Sometimes you just have to accept things in life, try learn from it and move on. Take care S x

[Bowieblue]

I dont have a question either but wanted to say how it helps to know there are other people out there that feeling emotional pain. Sounds naff but when you are going through a bad time, it seems like you are the only person in the world - everyone elses life seems ok! My mind is a mishmash at the moment, cant focus on anything - I want to but dont know what is most important. My confidence was built up by a man I thought loved me always - just to find out - by accident he was seeing someone else, - this had been going on for a year before I knew. Confidence gone. Im now climbing my mountain on my own. Sorry to sound so miserable - I do have good days, but not this one.

[unruliejulie]

hey funky, just picked up on something said before, i remember when my Dad died, i watched everyone going about their business as usual and i wanted to shout at them and tell them to stop because my Dad had just died! Then you realise, life still goes on regardless of what you are going through.Time is a great healer although i still think about my Dad most days even though he passed away 21 years ago this year. bowieblue, i am such a great believer in things will always get better. Any feelings you have now will start to ease eventually. Nothing lasts forever, Good times are ahead and i wish you all the very best! X

[Bowieblue]

Thank you

[raysparx]

Hi Bowie, you have been let down in one of the hardest way,by someone you loved and trusted,that is crap,but please look on the positive side,you are a loyal, loving person and you deserve better than the way you were treated,but one day things will turn round and somebody special will come along,give it time,it will work for you,take care, Ray xx