Not Sure What To Do Help Please

[fruitsalad]

My 5 year old grandaughter has been staying with me for a couple of weeks, her Mother has a new boyfriend, and in the last couple of days my grandaughter has been saying how her mother has been sexting as she calls it, and doing the actions as she telling me, now I know my grandaughter still sleeps with her mother, (I dont agree with it, but not my business) now if shes in the bed while her mother and new boyfriend are having sex its very worrying, I dont get on with my grandaughters mother and have had many an arguments with her in the past she doesn't take much notice of me, I just dont know what to do for the best.

[Old_Geezer]

Or maybe not look as if you are interfering, and not mention sharing the bed, and simply saying it's an offer to give the mother a break and, some time for herself ? Grandma's do that don't they ?

[fruitsalad]

I think hes moved in there, he's there more than he's not

[fruitsalad]

I have her every weekend

[jourdain2]

I'd go with hc's suggestion. A dire situation if the little girl is telling the truth - and I don't see why she shouldn't be. Very good luck.

[pastafreak]

It does make you wonder though...what DID families do when everyone slept in the same room/same bed? Could this couple really be assuming that as your grandaughter is so small,she'll just sleep through it all and not notice or understand? Just a thought.

[Olivio]

"It does make you wonder though...what DID families do when everyone slept in the same room/same bed?"

Probably went outside the caravan or house or used the toilet is my guess. But remember this man is a stranger getting naked next to an awake 5 year old and having sex, surely this is illegal and I'm guessing the son once he's released isn't going to be too happy if he finds out and could end up back inside if he decides to have it out with this weirdo.

[pastafreak]

Olivio...I am not talking about recent generations so much as 150...200 years ago. A one room hut/ cottage. Animals downstairs and family upstairs or next door.

[anneasquith]

Just one observation. This small child seems to have disclosed a lot of information, I wonder how the conversation started ?

[pastafreak]

I'm also assuming that in this case,the child is (most likely) asleep when the mum and he get into bed.
Of course,we could ask ...why don't they do it in the lounge?

[fruitsalad]

I was putting her to bed, and the conversation went "when my Mum and that idiot are sexting" and she then started doing humping motions, and I said to her when does this happen and she said in my bed when I'm asleep.

[fruitsalad]

and of course ' her' bed is also her Mothers bed, and no I wont be telling my Son while hes in there Olivio, he would go mad it was bad enough the mother got with this bloke, as soon as he was remanded.

[Answerprancer]

Maybe if someone encouraged the kid to tell her Mum that she doesn't like it when they "sex" in her bed, that might give the mother a wake-up call.
I think Olivio's response smacks of hysteria and I don't think the authorities need to be called at this stage.

[Answerprancer]

...though the second response seems more sensible.

[dawny0311]

If your 5 year old grandaugther is exhibiting a dislike: 'that idiot' and 'motioning' I would suggest you phone Social Care Child Services for advice. It can all be done anonymously, and, if necessary (and I think it will be) she may be placed in your care 'temporarily' until her mum has seen the light/can prove she can protect her daughter from what is going on.