I have read this thread with interest and have some tips of my own:
1. Stop feeling sorry for yourself, if YOU think you are fat, then you need to do something about it. Some people may think you aren�t but you know yourself and how you feel. Remember though that women can gain up to half a stone in weight during the time of their period. If it is a long term feeling then....
2. Get some exercise � anything that involves movement or getting �out of puff� for 20 minutes 3 times a week will help. If you don�t like gym or running, try something like pilates, yoga, walking or swimming � or join a club and play a sport. Other than severe medical conditions, there is no excuse for anyone to avoid being active.
3. Low fat this and the other is boring in the long term and not always good for you (as said already), no wonder you are de-motivated and feel fed up. People need fatty foods as well (good fats though) and every so often, a treat. Set yourself targets and treats, and soon you may find yourself getting into a routine that suits you and increases your energy levels and motivation/self esteem. If one night you get the urge to eat something like, lets say a bar of chocolate, then your target for the following would be to push yourself a little further in your exercise and vice versa.
For example, I know that when I go to the gym and run steadily on the treadmill for about 10 minutes, this burns approximately the equivalent of one pint of Fosters, so if I go out for a night and have say 3 or 4 pints (I am not a heavy drinker) then I know that I will have to work extra hard at the gym. This soon focuses the mind.