Do We Ever Really Care Who Lived In Our...
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Well, are you making life easy for him to stay at home? Do you wash his clothes, iron them, cook his meals, tidy his room? Do you let him get away with not paying reasonable rent for his Bed and Board?. How much have you contributed to making him believe he can still act like an irresponsible teenager?
Be honest with yourself about this because if this is case you are making a real rod for the back of his future wife or partner, letting him think life is still a free ride. If he's earning a reasonable salary, give him a deadline for finding a rented place on his own if his continual presence living with you is getting on your nerves. However, if he stays, make him pay you a reasonable rent and do his fair share of household chores. otherwise some woman will eventually blame you for raising a lazy irresponsible slob who can contribute nothing to their relationship. Remember the old proverb, "Behind every lazy man there is a mother ".
You haven't stated why you want him to leave home. If he isn't doing anything around the house & not paying/enough rent then I would also suggest raising the rent (or setting up a rental agreement!) to get his a$$ into gear. He may well want to move out once he realises he can't take you for a ride any longer?
My 13 & 16 year olds have regular chores to do in order for them to learn nothing comes for free..if the chores aren't done, they don't get pocket money. Likewise, they know that the chores won't get done for them. I am darned if I am going into their bedrooms to pick up their laundry ~ no washing, no clothes. I want them to learn to respect the others that they may be sharing with when they are older.
However, there may be another reason you want him to move out ~ is it just that you think it's time for him to go? if so, I would suggest leaving lots of estate agents brochures lying around. My mother in law did this & it worked a treat!
find him a flat, lend him the deposit, and tell him you will even help move his stuff in.
Otherwise make life as difficult as possible for him.
He is 27 and still hasnt learnt to stand on his own 2 feet and so the longer its left the bigger shock it will be to him when he eventually does move, and that will be move than likely in with a girlfriend, where he will expect the same service as he gets at home.
I hope my 2 boys will leave the nest when they go to University at 18 and suffer for a while in poverty and learn the meaning of life :o)