A friend of mine died in America - they had 3 grownup children. Husband married again within one year of her death. A girl who had two children of her own.
I actually wouldn't want to find another partner if I lost the one I have now. I love my husband with all my heart but he's got an almighty gob on him and he does not like to back down. Ever.
However I did tell him that if anything happened to me, not to mope or mourn and get out there and meet someone.
This question is bound to attract subjective answers from the majority, imo. That the marriage occurred 12 years ago (revealed well into the thread) gives us hindsight which JJ did not have at the time that I suspect it affected her the most. If the respondents revisit this thread in 12 years time their views may vary somewhat. For as much as we are all different it is as well to remember that events can and do influence us as we mature.