Do I Message Him Or Let Him Message Me?

[abbeylee90]

I'm meant to be going with guy I went on a date with on Saturday tonight do I message him if I don't hear from him or let him message me?

[scorpiojo]

He can still be nice, but not interested in you.

[abbeylee90]

The bearded guy messaged me again thought he take the hint by now 

[pastafreak]

Abbey...you're not willing to give a guy who seems nice another chance? He may be a better choice than the one who's obviously interested only in sex.

[Clementino]

two choices:

Either give the bearded guy one more chance on a fun date ( golf or similar) to see a different side to his personality. OR

Tell him you don't think he is right for you, but thanks for the last dates

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, maybe you'll have to tell him you're not at all interested - no need to mention that you kept in touch until you saw how the next guy worked out....

[abbeylee90]

I haven't heard from other guy or messaged but still not interested in the bearded guy

[Clementino]

Tell him you don't think he is right for you, but thanks for the last dates

[abbeylee90]

Pasta I've met him and don't fancy him.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, wouldn't life have been so much simpler if you'd told Bearded Guy you weren't interested weeks ago? That seemed too big a decision then, you wanted to see how the next guy panned out! 

[abbeylee90]

I've seen how other guy panned out and not still not interested but the bearded guy is 33 this yest shouldn't he be taking the hint that if a guy don't reply she not interested.

[Clementino]

 Bearded guy is not a mind- reader, so just tell him politely you don't think you are matched

[Auntypoll]

abbey you say the bearded guy should have taken the hint by now. Well, perhaps unlike you, he does'nt have a forum to go on to ask what to do . Look at the title of your post for goodness sake and try treating people how you would like to be treated yourself. How would you like it if the bearded guy was saying what you are saying about him to his friends? like he did'nt fancy you but was stringing you along until maybe something better came along. You will never ever find anyone if you treat people like that. Neither will you find anyone if you treat every date like its an interview for your husband. 

[abbeylee90]

It's not my fault he not for me. A date is partly an interview to see if your suited.

[Auntypoll]

Its your fault you have not put him straight that you did'nt fancy him. And NO dates are not interviews! 

[naomi24]

If abbey doesn't fancy him she doesn't.  She can take the advice she gets here or leave it.  Up to her.  No one is obliged to respond to anything on any thread.  

[newmodarmy]

You need to be more honest with people...your mum, guys, employers, bloke  at the dogs' home.

Tell beardy guy you're not interested.

[Neveracrossword]

Abbey, if the new guy hasn't messaged you since Sunday, maybe he is hoping YOU have got the hint? 

[scorpiojo]

Would you like someone to ignore you and hope you "take the hint"? Can't you just be honest with people?

[abbeylee90]

Neveracrossword I have and moved on as I have no idea what he thinking.

[Neveracrossword]

Thanks, Abbey. Glad to hear you're being more realistic now!